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What are the best arguments you have in favor of marriage?

OrangeJuice 6 July 16
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Nah........can't think of any 😕

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Societal pressure if you have kids. Not an issue in some areas.

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they don't always fail or you might end up not loathing each other or why not gotta future proof the divorce industry

weeman Level 7 July 16, 2018
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No catch all be all, there are good marriages, there are bad. I’m halfway through my 24th year of it and there have been ups and downs, but overall a quite positive experience. I also have known people who had extremely bad experiences.

PDF Level 5 July 16, 2018
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It's probably the best way to raise children. I enjoy my kids.

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Best way by far to bring up kids is with both parents together, marriage strengthens a couple, or should. But few take the vow seriously. I you don't get on, don't have kids, once you do have kids you owe it to them for you both to get on.

Savage Level 7 July 16, 2018

Wow. What a narrow view.

@Minta79 bitter experience and research bring me to this view.

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Ummmmmm, gimme a while and maybe I can come up with something.

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In the USA, I will say the one and only one is the tax rate.

You're better off as Head of Household if you've got qualifying dependents.

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It is a real commitment.

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For some people it's a commitment that allows them to trust their partner more as they've both at least claimed that they will stand by each other through thick and thin. For others I know they think it's outdated and obsolete and a horrible institution and IMO, most of those folks can trace back to a negative event or person that caused them to hold their current view.

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Health insurance. That’s pretty much it

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Can't think of a single one.

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The right to make legal and medical decisions regarding one's S/O when said S/O cannot.

Very true! It's one of the most important reasons for gay marriage.

This.... Is huge. Yes.

As somebody who lost 100% power in my fiance's life when he was hospitalized and then died, I agree, this is HUGE. I was "welcomed" at some doctor conversations and others were deemed "just family." His rotten ex (mother of his minor children) and horrid estranged sister were absolutely horrible to me and did everything he didn't want as it related to his service (had it at a Catholic church and he despised the Catholic church; buried him when he wanted to be cremated; and place old pictures of them together -- and they'd been divorced for three years), his belongings (including a classic car he would have wanted his best friend to have, but that didn't happen; and including demanding our joint belongings from OUR home), etc. It was all maddening, heartbreaking and disgusting; and I hope to never go through that again.

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to discover a man/woman's body in a more delicate way and it takes time.

IAS1 Level 5 July 16, 2018
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I use this as an arguement for everything...
;=8)

In the butthole!

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I used to think it indicated a stronger sense of commitment to each other. Living together you can choose whether to work hard at resolving problems, otherwise it's a lot easier to leave than a marriage is. Now I'm not so sure. Being old fashioned though, I do think it's better if you have kids.

Carin Level 8 July 16, 2018
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I suspect that most marriages last longer than live together arrangements, but I have nothing to back that up. For myself, I am done with marriage.

Carin Level 8 July 16, 2018

[reuters.com]

@PDF Wow! That is a HUGE difference!

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No crabs anymore!

You're wildly optimistic!

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If I were being highly pragmatic, asset protection. Marriage provides a legal safeguard for a personal you share your life and home with. If for some reason you pass away, you know they have security.

Personally, as a product of Western cultural attitudes, I think marriage holds value as a statement about one’s intentions and responsibilities. Marriage is a promise to trust another more than you can trust yourself.

You can will your assets to anyone you like, married or not.....

@AnneWimsey Good point. I was thinking in debates surrounding gay marriage for example as well, just as a means of minimising fuss. But fair enough.

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It's not like couples can take each other to court for child support should it be required, nope. I have to add on another coconut layer of bureaucratic nightmare to hold my partner hostage in case they get any wild ideas that don't include dragging me along with them.

Power of Attorneys are great and all, but I'd rather spend what is basically the cost of four, week long, badass, honeymoons. Just so we can show off to family members we haven't seen in decades how snazzy I look in my rented tux, and how beautiful she looks in a dress that's two car payments in value that gets worn once. Also all this money is basically for one day! Let's not get my friend who's done photography for years, Nah! Let's hire the one the wedding planner suggests that costs basically a 150% markup, but hey! open bar! woo! that...we...paid...for.....crap... Oh I almost forgot!

Lets not forget the artificially inflated, but otherwise value-less, compressed, shiny, glittery, clear, rock thing held in place on top of gold shaped rings we get to trade off as we both silently weep at the complete financial loss they are.

😀

fyi- Satire, obviously.

You are wildly optimistic about the price of a wedding dress, friend..."2 car payments" if the car is a Lamborghini, maybe....or a Rolls? Naw, 4-5 payments, minimum.

Sounds pretty spot on to me. ?

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Tax breaks

Simon1 Level 7 July 17, 2018
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In reading these comments, I think it would have been interesting to have also asked people to tell their status: never married, married, widowed, divorced (and was the divorce amicable). I can almost tell from the answers of some.

PDF Level 5 July 17, 2018

I am a Widower,lost wife of 27 years to lung cancer in Sept.2017, didn't marry until 43,so no kids. Why so late? 8 years in the Air Force,moving about every 6 months to a years time made it impossible to put down roots and raise a family with a Woman,seems I'd try to get a romance going and then new orders to move again,leaving a trail of broken hearts behind and bruising mine.

And then after separation,low paying jobs that kept me fed and housed but no extra to date with.Only when I got a better paying job was I able to do a wife hunt,so I ran an ad in a singles paper,my wife to be read it,called me up,we met,dated and married 6 months later.

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Tax breaks, also when you have kids and get divorced it is supervised by the state for the kids benefits, mostly. Otherwise, Buncha BS

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You have help entertaining the cats.

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