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What is happening to our Community?
I hope this doesn't turn into a rant... I just want to express my concern with some of the things I've seen happening on this site as of late. What spurred this on today was finding out about a new group that was created listing and talking about people that you blocked and that have blocked you and naming names. I can't see anything good coming from this.

I've been here a long time since last November and the "feel" of the community is changing. Perhaps because it has grown quite a bit and the increased numbers reflect a more representative profile of the general public. I don't know.

When I first came to the site (before there were groups) if someone was out of line or disrespectful they would be called out on it by the members but the discussion was always respectful and intelligent. But today there seems to be more and more divisiveness and arguments and disrespect.

So some of you know me and that I tend to be a positive and optimistic kind of person. Maybe that skews my perspective on this. Maybe that's not reality, again, I don't know. I have to be honest, I've had my doubts about whether I should stay on this site. I'm not sure that I am getting any benefit from the site like I use to.

I would like to get some feedback from you, the community and especially those that have been here long enough to see the changes.

Am I being unrealistic in how people should interact with each other? Are we changing for the good? Have we lost respect for each other's individual opinions and for each other? I would really like to hear your opinions, even those of you who may not agree. I'm open to listening to all points of view.
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BeeHappy 9 July 19
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Some comments are kind and profound. Let them represent the site. But for any that may be nasty, I see that at the end of a post, you can move the mouse arrow over the three lines and one of the links is labeled, "Report."

MrDMC Level 7 July 20, 2018
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Building fences? Is that what this site is becoming? I've been a member for a few months and I'm very happy to be among such great minds! I lead my life according to the philosophy of greeting each day with a smile and I understand that life could be worse. People will be people and I say reach one, teach one. Those of us with patience and knowledge should lead by example instead of letting others bring us to an emotional level equaling theirs. This is a great community and I make new friends daily. Although we haven't interacted, I would sincerely see a great mind such as yours leave before it's been explored. Please stay.

Thank you so much!

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We have lost respect and the site is becoming bizarre with regard to topics.

Marine Level 8 July 20, 2018

And, we've lost MANY long-time active participants, which is a bummer. 😟

I agree with you that some conversations here are bizarre. I guess that is one good aspect of Groups - most of the bizarre stuff happens there. I still wish we had just gone with categories, but whatever. If we had, we would definitely need one called "X Rated" or "No Holds Barred." Sometimes I think people have us confused with Reddit's "Red Pill" sub-reddit. (Which I haven't perused--heard about on news/political podcasts.) But, I guess that is what we and @admin have created. Will be interesting to see what the environment is like a year from now.

@BlueWave When they began discussing their sexual preferances on line that was enough for me.This is the first time I have been back on line in over a week. I have been here since oct of last year and found it fun at that time but as the lady before you stated some of the topics are petty and some should not be discussed on this site. I guess I will never make 9

@Marine Yeah, me neither. I am with you. Not only sexual preferences, but explicit and detailed sexual preferences. I'm not a prude by any stretch, but geez laweeze.

@BlueWave Thanks I am no prude either but TMI for sex

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I am brand new to the site, but I will add my two cents. I think the civil discord has dramatically shifted in this country since the 1970's and has exponentially grown since 2016. Many feel "their time has come and political correctness has been thrown out the window", freeing them to be rude, have lack of empathy for anything other than themselves, promote bigotry, dishonesty, and ignore human traits that promote common decency. Ironically, I have witnessed this drastic civil change in Christians, especially the Evangelicals. Sometimes I wish Christian beliefs, as I understand them, were true. If their god came back today, he or she would slap the shit out 99% of those proclaiming to be devoutly worshipping their god and looking forward to "heaven". I feel the same way with the Muslims. I am a Pagan and have been more many years. I have no deities that I worship, solely believing in reason, science, and my limited understanding of my place in the universe. Maybe this group will be good and then maybe not. Nothing ventured....nothing gained.

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Everyone has a "thing" that they wish not be a part of "the discussion" whatever that may be. Myself included. But then when I think about it, do I want my standards (or lack thereof) applicable? My answer is no. Then we get into a situation where one is not able to freely speak their mind. I don't like censoring based on my personal tastes. That's what the block button is for. Keep in mind however, that the freedom to speak one's mind opens a great opportunity to contribute in a thoughtful and intelligent manner, or in a stupid, ignorant, and childish manner, be prepared in that however you choose to comment here, there are going to be consequences. Some kind and agreeable, some harsh and brutal, and some neutral/meh. You'll either learn something interesting or you won't. Freedom of thought doesn't always mean one is right or one's sensitivities may not be ruffled. All I'm saying is expect consequences.

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A lot of potential for damage in such groups. I mention that I've blocked some people but never offer up names.

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