Make your anger an ally by learning what makes you angry, then by realizing why you get angry.
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”
People always get angry because they’re afraid of losing something; fear of losing a person we love, our status and role in society, the respect of another person or ourselves, losing an argument, or losing our life; all of these and more can and will make us angry.
But anger can be a valuable ally and tool; it’s how we use it which makes it helpful, or hurtful. Knowing what makes you angry, and why, is just the first step in managing your anger so it becomes an asset instead of a detriment.
Once you know ‘what’ and ‘why’, then you can start learning the ‘how’.
Anger makes my blood sugar go up, which rewquires more insulin. Insulin is vvery expensive and wasting it on emotions seems counter productive to me. So, I avoid getting angry; instead I get crafty in my plans for revenge.
Any person certainly needs to know what makes them angry. Otherwise, the person is open to manipulation. I learned that painfully from my first wife. She knew what my hot buttons were and how to push them -- and did it daily. Also in any conflict situation, if you can make the other person angry, you can lead them into behavior which can be used against them.
Well said, describing many people's reality. People with sociopathic attributes, especially emotional vultures, can and do use anger against those who can't control their anger. Trump used the technique very effectively against Hillary, among others, and right on TV.
Sometimes, anger can be used as a force multiplier. So, I'd say that working up a real good anger, at the appropriate time, is ok.
@maturin1919
Exactly. At times, a necessity.
I think anger can be a fantastic motivator.
I don't look at anger as a negative, at all.
It's like the whole thing about "forgiveness". What a load of crap.
I don't need to "forgive" anyone. I'm either going to get over whatever
it is, or I won't. Forgiveness is just some feel-good bullshit made up by
religion.
It's all in your perspective. Mine is way different from what "conventional wisdom" may dictate.
I also have no use for conventional wisdom.
I can think for myself.
Exactly. A compadre' of mine was shot down by a VC hiding in a village with a SAM. We were forced to abort our "win the hearts & minds" mission to that place. We returned, and burned it to the ground in a fit of righteous anger. Justified? In my opinion, yes. Fueled by testerone infused anger? Absolutely.