To thirty-something and forty-something singles: Instead of online dating, what do you do socially to get out and meet new people? (other than going to bars with a friend) Im looking for ideas.
Karaoke! Even if you don't sing, we need an audience!
I climb at a rock climbing gym. Climbers are very social, we often spend hours in the gym working on a particular climbing route or style of movement, so there is lots of chit-chatting between climbers on neighbouring "problems". You don't even need a head for heights, "bouldering" is a respected discipline in climbing and doesn't involve being far enough from the ground to need a rope.
I met great men at ballroom dances, and I used to volunteer to clean up local parks, national forest lakes, etc. I also went trail riding on my horses and met people, and at my local organic food coop. I used to have so many dates, I looked on dating as a chore I made myself do..to eliminate men I don't like and find someone good.
But when I did find someone good, it was from an online dating ad on Match.com.
Being a poly male that tends to be attracted to bisexual women, I don't really go out socially hoping to meet someone romantically. When you assume no one is compatible in terms of relationship, it frees you from that tension and you can just talk to people. While it can be challenging and a little isolating, it has helped me to be more forward socially.
I don't have the luxury and time, but public libraries have lot of events. Its mostly all nosy women, but its a good venue. The cities have been doing lot of excercise, work out classes for free. I have seen lot of group, events in other dating site. I have tried but in my case its all good wives, or single mother. So no guys and could not even find a women to be friends with who was in my shoes. Many of us work and pay bills. At the end of the day i pass out. Facebook have lot of dating pages and many meet. gadening groups meet. I just created a group for people looking for love. "Truly single gal and guys looking for love." Group. Not sure if people in my area will join but if there is enough of us I can arrange a local meet. The place doesn't have to expensive. I use to go to garden groups, but I am gardener and there are lot of people who would show up hoping to find love. Many have met on those groups. Most all of these are free events. We bring pot luck and some time nothing.