Am I the only one who feels like a social misfit? Between work, training (cycling), sleep and chores, I get little quality social time. I don’t go out, because I’m up by 5 a.m. every day. I haven’t been on an actual date in almost three years.
And I can actually be quite charming in person.
I love solitude, but the longer I’m alone the more I think I just don’t like people.
Am I the only curmudgeon on this site?
Hmmm. I thought by now, age 60, I'd be struggling to fill y time. Absolutely wrong, Ms. Goddess, U R absolutely right.
Is it the same as always.......Time Management.?
I can really trace my time wasting down to : Internet.
What saves time is busyness and music.
And...btw....U can call me anytime, for quality time. FYI!
'Curmudgeon' ... a new word for me. I believe the word is gender-specific (m), but if you want to be one there's not much holding you back. A charming curmudgeon has a ring to it!
I know I don't like a lot (perhaps the majority) of people, but I do like company in small doses; although I admit I get tired of my kids and mom (these are the ones I see the most often). I have always been this way so it's nothing new to me.
Perhaps you need to take a couple of days break and do something fun with a few people so you can regroup.
I'm not sure when I'll be in Texas so can't ask you out on a date . It's probably not exactly what you had in mind anyway.
I've noticed I'm not nearly as social now as I was when I was younger. For about 25 years, from my 20s through my mid 40s, I went out most weekends, had lots of friends and enjoyed my alone time. Now, in my 50s, most of my friends are gone, I don't really crave going out like I used to and I kinda dislike all the solitude.
I now understand firsthand what it feels like to be "getting older." It's very different than what things were like just 10 years ago.
I'm pretty good at being a curmudgeon myself. Which is a talent I didn't know I had when I was still in my prime.
I did. After 28 years of marriage of solitude with almost no social activities, I feel starved of interaction with others. I still love the solitude but also cherish the time I can spend with my two daughters! What I think I am finding out is that I need the ability to be independent if and when I want.
When I used to cycle, that was my Zen. Cycling for outdoor sport and pool - as in playing pool - for indoor, as both can be as social or individual as you make them. Unless you are a total introvert, the cycling can be such a great social activity. I used to belong to several groups, from the US Air Force cycling team to just some locals here on the island that cycle a bit and then open craft beers. All of that said, I understand where you are coming from. Since I work from home, it has been very easy to isolate. My last LTR was four years ago, I have dated off and on since, but nothing has connected. It has been lonely as well. Fascinating.