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What does single mean to you? You can select one or all. Just curious because I'm struggling with my definition.
EDIT: I've added one more possibility since I see a difference between having a SO and exclusively dating someone.

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ProudMary 8 Aug 31
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Marriage is a remnant of outdated religions. I don't believe in marriage. I can live exclusively with someone for the rest of my life, love and have a family but the concept of marriage does not make any sense in my head. Although it has a place in laws of almost all countries. Tells you how much religions have influenced the laws of almost all countries of the world.

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I think there are two things which are getting mixed up: marital status (S,M,W,D,Sep) and relationship status with whatever categories one chooses. Single is the name of a marital status category, if there a relationship status single it is much more complicated than a mere marital status.

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Good q...I think the answers prove that if you involved in any way with someone, it is a conversation worth having.
I hear that you stop being single, only when you change your face book or other social media status! Lol
Lots of non monogamous type relationships these days - open- swingers- polyamorous, etc.
For me, it's legal...on forms and when asked, I say single ... because I am not married
To good friends...I might share more info if it applies.

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I voted for all of the above but I don’t think it registered that way.
I don’t know what the difference is between having a SO and exclusively dating.

Anyway...

For legal purposes, as far as I know, there are only two designations: single or married. So I tend to think that way too, even though my personal definition of marriage totally disregards legal status. Marriage, to me, has four components.

  1. Cohabitation.
  2. Sexual exclusivity.
  3. Commitment to permanence.
  4. Relational engagement.

Anything else is just dating, as far as I’m concerned, whether it’s exclusive or not. To me, if two people are madly in love, don’t date other people, but are not married... they’re single. You could say, single but unavailable.

skado Level 9 Aug 31, 2018
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My feeling, if you're dating, you're still single. If that becomes a significant other (which I also consider exclusive), you're not.

@ProudMary I re-worded my response. I consider a SO exclusive, so I wouldn't go out with someone else.

@ProudMary I'm pretty loyal, so I tend not to date more than one person at a time anyway. If I was casually seeing someone and then I met someone, I wouldn't refuse to meet them and get to know them. But that's never happened and I doubt it would; it's more than enough for me to deal with one at a time, even rarer that that shows up.

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If you're in a relationship you're not single

My opinion is that you if are not married, you are single. If you have a SO or are otherwise in a committed relationship, you are still single but not available.

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It means the cheese is individually wrapped

@Bierbasstard touche.

@Stacey48 meaning, of course, it's neither cheese nor food

@Stacey48 it's how some cheese is sold (i.e. Kraft singles)

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Unmarried, living alone with the freedom to live your life as you see fit and want to live it.

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If the possibility of indiscretion exist you have a significant other. Cheating on them would jeopardize your romantic standing with them.

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Marriage is just one way to formalize having a significant other. But if you're cohabiting and having sex, all marriage adds to it is some social recognition for what you're already doing.

I have it on good authority that having sex is often mutually exclusive from marriage...

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there should be another catagory - unmarried and looking

Right. Like the definition of unemployment. 🙂 Not employed, but wanting to be employed.

@KenChang But I know some people who do not want to be employed

@starwatcher-al Exactly. They don't count when they are determining the unemployment rate.

@ProudMary I know several unmarrieds who are NOT looking. I am NOT one of them.

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Freedom... but no sex partner. There is positive and negative with every choice.

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