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Let's say someone has wronged you. Not in a physical or violent or permanently damaging way...but more like you got your feels hurt. How do you respond?

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Iam4MY 7 Sep 4
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I have absolutely no self respect or assertiveness, so my brain would probably tell me that I deserved whatever it was they said to me, so I'd probably just apologize and walk away. Not healthy, but that's unfortunately how my brain works.

@Iam4MY Probably, but that's one of those "easier said than done" things

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If it was their intention t hurt or wrong me, I usually just cut the person out of my life. People who commit such deliberate acts get no second chances to do it again.

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Feelings come. Feelings go. Heat of the moment, I tell'em to fuck off and if they persist then turn up the heat if I have to stay but leave if I can. No time for assholes.

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I'm a confronter. Rip off the band-aid.

Deb57 Level 8 Sep 5, 2018
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Burn their house to the ground salt the earth it rests on and kill their first born !!!!

Yessirree, because nursing a grudge, real or imagined, is Such a good idea!

"Crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and to hear the lamentation of the women."

@Deb57 I sooo not dull enough to go after women

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Depends on the transgressor and the transgression. Some people exist just to provide background noise, others make honest mistakes, and then there are those in need of a righteous smack down. Never a one-size-fits-all solution.

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Don't sweat the small stuff gives YOU a happier life.

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It depends on how bad that person made me feel and how it was done. If it wasn’t intentional, then I think I’d be able to move on. If the person hurt my feelings beause of something shitty s/he did or said, I’d have to consider the possibility of it becoming a regular occurrence. If that’s the case, I think I’d have to end the relationship before I got too emotionally attached.

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Try to get over it anyway. Some times it takes a while.

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I get quiet, internalize everything, sulk for a week but act like I'm not bothered. I never express my feelings but will always remember the wrong. And if they wrong me 2-3 more times after the first time, then I cut them off completely without explanation.

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It depends. If it's a religious or alt-right person, I simply block and delete them, then never contact them again.

If it's some random person in a crowd or a casual work friend, I ignore them..completely- from then on.

If it's a romantic partner I calmly confront them, and if the response is negative, or if the behavior is repeated, I become too busy to be around them or to pay attention to them anymore.

If they continue disrespectful behavior, I tell them that "things aren't working out," and ask them to leave. If they delay, I throw their stuff on the lawn and change the locks.

@Bendog I'd just go about my business and ignore them as much as possible.

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It depends entirely on what your relationship with the individual is ,for this to be answered correctly.Best friend,spouse ,boss,coworker,complete stranger etc, Only a fool with no self restraint would react in the same manner with all these individuals .

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I avoid them too. They usually get the hint.

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Living involves pain, it can't be avoided but what you take away from it is up to you. Was what they said painful because it was the truth and therefore an insight into your life and how you might improve it or was it just hurtful. One says something about you and the other says something about them. Either way you have an opportunity to learn something, either about yourself or about them. What you decide to do after that depends on which it is and what you want to do about it.

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Is this someone you care about? If so, I’d let them know. If nothing else it will get it off your chest and hopefully you’ll feel some better. If it’s not someone you care about, talk to a friend and then let it go. They aren’t deserving of your mental energy.

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Way too many variables here, but what are feelings?

JimG Level 8 Sep 4, 2018

@Bendog I caught on almost that big on 10 lb braid and made the mistake of grabbing the line. I felt that.

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Communication is key.

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