My husband and I have agreed to leave the super strict church we attend (I’ve been there practically my whole life and he attended an almost identical church his whole life as well). We have also agreed to move and this is my last week at my “church job”. My kids are now enrolled in public school as of tomorrow. Our house is up for sale, we’re closing on a new home next month in another city. My entire WORLD is about to change completely! I still haven’t said anything to my kids about “not believing” but I’ve been dropping subtle hints like not attending last nights bible study, telling them evolution is a proven fact, etc.

Last night however, my husband let me know that he doesn’t think he can handle me being agnostic (he can’t even say the word atheist, it’s too offensive). He’s ok with us attending a different church, moving and taking the kids out of christian school, but he said he just can’t live in a home that doesn’t have “Christian values” he said it’s what our marriage is based on and there’s no convincing him otherwise. He told me that me denying god and the Bible was worse than if I would have told him I was having an affair. I can see and appreciate his perspective and I’ve tried to reassure him that my love for him has nothing to do with religion but he’s assuming that since I abandoned god that he will be next. He wants me to attend church with him (I would rather eat my own arm) but I’m hoping we can come to a compromise somehow and still be happy and stay out of the divorce courts. I think one day he will come around but it will not be any time soon This is the most exciting, scary, stressful, happy, important thing I’ve ever done.