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Long distance relationships : can they work when both parties haven't even met irl? How would that work out? Has anyone here been in a long distance relationship that worked?

I'm asking for personal reasons, so please share your thoughts and experiences.

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Cutiebeauty 9 Sep 7
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It just depends on your long term goal. Despite people’s negative replies: it is a relationship. I’ve had many and they work great.

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No,a relationship when you haven't even met is not a relationship, it's pure fantasy. Maybe fantasy is good enough for you, if it is, that's fine.don't put your life on hold for someone that you've never met.

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I have tried a couple of long-distance relationships, both failed. For me, the physical intimacy is too important.....maintaining the relationship becomes just another of life's burdens with no financial or physical benefit. Will not try another one, though it is wonderful that it has worked for others.

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I did, worked perfectly. We saw each once in a while. If you want to know more come talk privately

Haha if it worked perfectly as you say, why should I private message you ?

@Cutiebeauty to know more how it went and to get yo know me haha

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Like all things in life you have to take a chance. My last long distance relationship didn’t last long. But, my best friend just got married with the man of her dreams and they began as a LDR. It could happen.

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It worked for me for 6 months and then we met and married. These days we are divorced, so be aware that anything can change.
Be very much aware that others may have figured out your personal situation to a point of them wanting to gain from it and they will entice you with words that are extremely misleading. People do this because they know that even "cutie beuties" get lonely. If you allow this to continue do not give money and by all means get a lawyer and use a pre -nup.

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I’ve just come across this post and was a really good read, the comments were very fair and it directly relates to my experience on this site, I have spoken with some amazing men on here and have felt a genuine need to get to know them, I have not been disappointed so far with the connections I have made, I have been open and honest about what my plans are for the future and my travels, it is really exhilarating when the conversation and laughs just seem to flow. I have expressed that I would like to eventually meet up and have promised nothing in return except at the very least a new amazing friendship. There are no guarantees and I agree that number one, you have to meet face to face before you can even consider it being a “real” relationship and that if it evolved into something deeper then you would have to have further discussions pertaining to relocation, logistics, fidelity, expectations etc. I am hopeful of a relationship at some stage but the world is full of lovely people and you never know what’s around the corner. I also have the luxury of retirement and nothing holding me in one place. I wish you all the best in any future endeavours and peace to all. Cheers ✌🏼💓

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I don't see why not. Some people just want an emotional connection and proximity to someone isn't required to do that. Obviously it isn't for everyone and I've never done it but I've heard of many people who are happy with it. 🙂

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After reading numerous posts, I decided to chime in. I think it absolutely depends on the two people involved. What are each person’s expectations from the start? How much transparency is between the parties? Does each person have the same goal, and are they both willing to make the sacrifices necessary to keeep the relationship dynamic? This has become a very nomadic nation. For that matter, how many couples are in a “long distance relationship” by necessity? Look at our military families and military contractors. Look at couples where one or the other commutes long distances for work and that partner only comes home on the weekends. Many partners travel overseas for business, staying sometimes for months at a time. There has to be an understanding and acceptance from the very beginning in every relationship. And let’s face facts - all relationships worth having take commitment, investment, and sacrifice. And let’s not forget love and altruism. Anything can work if two people are passionate about making it work.

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Without ever having met in person there is no "relationship". Human sexual attraction is most likely a manifestation of the visual and first-person observation of the personality.

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I sort of have one? I have a hypno-domme in DC that I chat with, but she does it as a business so IDK if that counts. I have had 2 others that didn't work. One was three states away (Texas to Alabama). We were basically really just friends but she had a crush on me and I tried to feel the same, teenagers. The other was aledgedly 1 hour away. She didn't seem too interested in meeting, but seemed very interested in money. Still not convinced she was real.

He was real.

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I’d think not.

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Seattle was founded by loggers, few women. 100 New England women / girls made the trip to find husbands from a single advertisement and an agent. Mail order brides have existed for a long time. India still practices arranged marriages, in which the man and woman may never have met. One learns to live with the other person, love comes a leisure and with time. So, yes, I think it can happen. Just be sure who you are speaking with. Talk to him via phone or video chat before committing. Never give them money -- meet in a neutral city as a vacation -- take a friend with you.

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So long as both people know what they want and are open than yes

JJay Level 2 Oct 6, 2018
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Whatever makes you happy....nuff said

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