I have the most mind-blowing, fantastic sex when I open myself up physically, mentally and emotionally.

I have to feel safe, both physically and emotionally. This takes time.

I have always found for me that if I'm not at least a little bit in love I can't enjoy the physical aspects of sex at all. I am of the generation that insisted that women don't enjoy sex and I don't believe that. But the only times I've really been all in sexualy I was already all in emotionally. Otherwise I'm guarded and inhibited and that just wrecks the experience. I'd rather not even go there. So for me a monogamous relationship where we keep evolving together over time is ideal and the sex just keeps getting better.

I don't think monogamy is "natural", but then neither are a lot of things, like critical thinking, personal discipline and integrity, reliability, etc. Some things take discipline and repetition to master. Some of those things are worth the effort.

That's not to judge or second guess you for not finding it important at this point in your life, so long as you're up-front about it with people you interact with. It's just to say that it being difficult is not an argument against monogamy or marriage or significant others.

I suggest you haven’t found someone who has touched your heart yet. Sex and love are very far from being one and the same thing, You assert you can separate the two, and it’s not for me to contradict you, but that is the problem with a lot of men Im afraid they can say they love one woman and still have sex with others and think it’s okay. I think you will find very few, if any, women would agree with you. Most women in my experience need to have an emotionally secure relationship and that would require commitment from her partner and monogamy would most certainly be a must.

I don't believe monogamy is meant for everyone - not at all. Though after you've been around longer, you might find a different way of being suits you better. We all have varying stages in our lives. Find what feels best !

I think when you are younger monogamy is questionable, however as the years go by you become less adventurous and being with one partner is more desirable, I know that now I'm in love sex is so much more with Dan. We met here and fell in love and moved in together two months ago. Monogamy is better.

The vast majority of women want a loving, committed relationship.

Of course monogamy is important.

"Top 10 Reasons for Being- and Staying- Monogamous"

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