It seems that there aren’t many here dating in my area, most profiles are here for community. What’s it like in your neck of the woods?
I think I have some dating possibilities in my general area but I haven't pursued that as I'm working on some issues that would not present me in the best light. Once I get a few of the more critical fires put out, I hope to start socializing a bit with some of the local groups and individuals relatively close by. I'm a transplant here so I'm living a bit like Matt Damon in "The Martian."
Even in an area like Houston, there aren’t many yet. However, the conversation is enlightening and I’m enjoying the community aspect.
Yeah, it's a bit sparse in many areas, since this is such a new website, with a restricted demographic.
There are some people available for dating in my area, but they're out of my league. And then there are my cats. Do they count?
@Donotbelieve I actually just also posted this realization today. ? Thanks! I appreciate the reinforcement.
While it may seem to be negative self-talk and potentially self-defeating to make premature assessments about possible compatibility, it's certainly a consideration that comes into play. I figured that before I started seriously putting out feelers for someone that I might be attracted to in here, that I'd summarize on my profile page as best I can what I carry the most anxiety about... essentially "what's wrong with me?" (which is often just beneath the surface of questions like "why aren't you married?" ).
I actually think that level of self-knowledge is a good thing and opens the door to a relationship based on reality rather than an initial impression (which can often be either overinflated, or too superficial).
It probably sounds rather cryptic, but that's why I feel laying it out there would be worthwhile.
I don't. I think the notion of "out of my league" means that you would not expect someone to put up with your own shortcomings/attributes as far as a romantic relationship goes. Those attributes can be often be largely superficial in scope, but they also deal with personal comfort zones. It can be looks, demonstrated earning potential, organizational skills, etc. Just as many employers are all about constantly applied metrics, compatibility and maintaining a relationship follow similar standards.
So yes, I often do see someone as out of my league, though I am confident enough to pursue friendships with anyone. There's always the possibility of something further developing if one at least can read the signals.
Or it could be that I'm still not getting your point.
I consider it a sign of respect the engage people openly and honestly.
You know what? I have never checked, being here just for community it never even occured to me and I'm not even sure how I would tell.
Good luck luck in your quest.