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It seems that there aren’t many here dating in my area, most profiles are here for community. What’s it like in your neck of the woods?

Perseids18 5 Oct 9

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I think I have some dating possibilities in my general area but I haven't pursued that as I'm working on some issues that would not present me in the best light. Once I get a few of the more critical fires put out, I hope to start socializing a bit with some of the local groups and individuals relatively close by. I'm a transplant here so I'm living a bit like Matt Damon in "The Martian."

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Haven't really looked all tht closely... pretty much every member who is within 20 miles of me is a woman and I am a gay man, so I Ihaven't looked much closer than that as far as dating aspirations go.

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I live 80 miles from nowhere will have to get a mail order date to get lucky out here.

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It's lucky I have dogs. I'm in the middle of what used to be called Little Dixie and there are more Christians and meth heads here than you can shake a stick at. No women at all with my philosophical or political bent who are single.

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Cloudy, with a chance of snow later in the day!

(It's a very low participation rate in my area, too, but I do like the sense of community.)

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Is there something worse than absolutely horrible?

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Even in an area like Houston, there aren’t many yet. However, the conversation is enlightening and I’m enjoying the community aspect.

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Yeah, it's a bit sparse in many areas, since this is such a new website, with a restricted demographic.

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There are some people available for dating in my area, but they're out of my league. And then there are my cats. Do they count?

What a terrible way to see things.
I think there's a fine line between respecting and admiring a person and viewing them as better than yourself. No one is any better than anyone else. There are no leagues, only your fellow humans. Cross back over, friend, we're all the same.

@Donotbelieve I actually just also posted this realization today. ? Thanks! I appreciate the reinforcement.

@PolyWolf solid

@Donotbelieve

While it may seem to be negative self-talk and potentially self-defeating to make premature assessments about possible compatibility, it's certainly a consideration that comes into play. I figured that before I started seriously putting out feelers for someone that I might be attracted to in here, that I'd summarize on my profile page as best I can what I carry the most anxiety about... essentially "what's wrong with me?" (which is often just beneath the surface of questions like "why aren't you married?" ).

I actually think that level of self-knowledge is a good thing and opens the door to a relationship based on reality rather than an initial impression (which can often be either overinflated, or too superficial).

It probably sounds rather cryptic, but that's why I feel laying it out there would be worthwhile.

@WilliamCharles I think we're discussing two different scenarios.

@Donotbelieve

I don't. I think the notion of "out of my league" means that you would not expect someone to put up with your own shortcomings/attributes as far as a romantic relationship goes. Those attributes can be often be largely superficial in scope, but they also deal with personal comfort zones. It can be looks, demonstrated earning potential, organizational skills, etc. Just as many employers are all about constantly applied metrics, compatibility and maintaining a relationship follow similar standards.

So yes, I often do see someone as out of my league, though I am confident enough to pursue friendships with anyone. There's always the possibility of something further developing if one at least can read the signals.

Or it could be that I'm still not getting your point.

@WilliamCharles I like you, but you "talk" a lot.

@Donotbelieve

I consider it a sign of respect the engage people openly and honestly.

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Here in St. Louis I havent been overwhelmed. Where is your area?

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I think a group of SA Agnostics should meet on neutral ground for coffee and conversation. We can invite others who are nearby, such as New Braunfels, Floresville, and Seguin. If we develop friendships, perhaps some will find romance.

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Very few of any persuasion. I wouldn't mind dating but I would love some secular friends my age to go do stuff with.

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You know what? I have never checked, being here just for community it never even occured to me and I'm not even sure how I would tell.

Good luck luck in your quest.

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