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Just wondering, about past experiences. Im on a couple dating sites, and have had several dates with women are church going Christians. My Bio clearly states agnostic, but yet they continue to agree to, even ask for a meet and greet. they say they understand the meaning my beliefs, but once expressed, face to face, you can see the expression change all most instantly. Has any one on here had these same experiences. A couple have even came back for 2nd dates. Most just bail out . LOL

malibu64 4 Oct 11
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It depends on their level of belief/tolerance. My first wife was tolerant but still wanted to save me. I've dated believers who didn't care about my beliefs but I'm trying to stay away from believers.

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My experience has been that believers actually think that anyone who identifies as agnostic or atheist just need to hear the 'good words' and they'll be magically converted. I think they believe it gives them brownie points towards 'heaven' if they can save some pagan souls.

Sometimes even includes some superiority. But that's people. I know some non believes that act superior as well. Like political arguing... Hardly ever ends with "oh I see it your way now!" All beliefs and non beliefs are pretty deep rooted and are slow to change. But Christians call that planting seeds, they are taught this is godly work to convert you.

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Yep. I always post, don't try to evangelize me. Still, they want to. It sucks. All I want is for someone to accept me as I am and someone to accept as he is. Seems I ask too much and get nothing.

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I'm dating someone who is a Jehovah's Witness and before her, I dated a Baptist Christian and before that one, I dated a nondenominational Christian. None of them cared that I didn't believe. The Jehovahs Witness says she believes because it makes her feel better about the loss of her sister and it gives her hope that she can apologize to her. I'm fine with that as long as she keeps her beliefs out of our relationship.

Excellent explanation.

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Distrust or dislike of atheism or agnosticism is learned behavior, you have to think through why you don't like someone using that as a basis. Dating and courtship, on the other hand, are heavily influenced by raw animal magnetism, which you clearly possess in quantity. 🤓

Please don’t think I’m laughing at you! Your raw animal magnetism just got me in the giggle box! ?

@Beverly256 No worries, I was going for a laugh, though Malibu is obviously a stud. ?

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I'm an atheist, and state that on the date-sites (Metch) that have that box to check. It has greatly limited my range of dates, even though I'd be willing to date others. I might approach a "christian" on a dating site, if we have common interests and they don't lay their "love of god" on real thick. My reasoning is that some people identify themselves based on background, rather than beliefs. Just as they might self-describe as Italian, or Irish, as an ethnic background, even if they are Americans who've never been to their grandparents' country of origin and don't speak the language, they might be of Methodist (or whatever) religious background. . The "spiritual but not religious" are such a mixed bag, it's hard to know what it means. Many are borderline agnostics, and lots of my friends would self-describe as such. But some are as negative and judgmental as the worst fundamentalists.

On POOF, the box to check only says "non-religious" and that can be a pretty mixed bag, too. All this makes me grateful for this site, and hopeful that there will be more women on it. But I'm still on POOF, at present.

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I've had that experience also. I read their bio before going out with them, if it states their "love of God" or looking for a "Christian man", etc. I quickly move on. I also move on if they're conservative and/or Trump voters. I state in my bio that I'm an agnostic, and also that i'm a member of 4:20 club, Lol..

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Just to say I've been on a date, I'd go out with phyllis schafly.

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Perhaps they are more or less militant about those things, and hope you are the same. No charge for asking, is there?

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You may be viewed as easy to convert,"Putty in their hands".Why do Women want to change a Man? Maybe into their fathers image and habits?

Please don't generalize this to women in general.

@Emerald No,just my opinion on some Women.

@Emerald Word

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