Another favorite quote from my favorite woman protagonist, Nadia Makita:
"Take what is offered; that sometimes must be enough."
This is, I think, meant to convey the Buddhist/Mindfulness concept of acceptance of what is. And this has proven to be a bit trickier concept than it originally appears.
I often see the dating/relationship advice NOT to settle. I have a feeling that accepting what is offered is not the same thing as "settling." I can't quite verbalize how they are different.
Maybe one of you is a master of mindfulness. Maybe you can tell me. 
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I agree, you can't "remake someone" to fulfill your needs. Love is give and take, and when you love someone you try to please them. Sometimes one partner is unable to fill all your needs.. this is where you accept them or take what is offered. I am having a difficult time explaining this. the phrase ":fill all your needs" doesn't really express that sentiment well. Allowing the other person to blossom into their true self? while in a loving sharing relationship?
AmmaRE007
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Oct 24, 2018
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also we are all responsible for our own happiness
I agree--it's OK to explore having a different kind of relationship than you were thinking you wanted. If you insist on every detail of your "perfect relationship with the perfect person" you might be too rigid, & you also may end up staying single. Look at each situation & each person with an open mind, or you might pass by something wonderful.
Carin
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Oct 24, 2018
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Thanks! A great explanation!
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