Who has heard of the ex over two rule?
Basically the rule is that if x is the amount of time you have been in a relationship, then x/2 is the amount of time before you are ready to start a new relationship. Over the years I have observed this rule to be quite good, and that if people get into their next relationship too soon it very often doesn't work.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I can agree that getting into the next relationship before you are ready emotionally is not a good thing.
Ultimately how one moves on will be individual. There’s a lot of different factors such as how the previous relationship ended, age of the person, whether there are children involved and the reason for the split( divorce, death of a spouse)
I had no intention of waiting very long after my divorce to get back into dating.
Green_eyes
Level 8
Nov 10, 2018
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I am a year out of an 18 year relationship, including 17 years of marriage. I'm not going to live long enough to wait 35 years before getting involved again. Although I would prefer never over a repeat of the last mistake.
Deb57
Level 8
Nov 9, 2018
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Same here. Was in a 22 year relationship with my late wife and I doubt I will live much more than 15 more years, so I'm trying to date now, two years after her death. I've already been grieving her loss for 5 years already since she lost her personality and her mind by 2013 to dementia. On the other hand, my father is 90 and if I had a partner and decent health it would be fine to live that old, but I don't think that's realistic.
If that's the case, I'll be dead before I can be in another relationship.
Tomfoolery33
Level 9
Nov 8, 2018
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To try and establish a set of rules for emotions would be at the very least a monumental if not an impossible task. There are just too many variables involved, personality differences; character traits; personal preferences; childhood experiences; traumas (medical, psychological, and emotional); and mental health. You could work at it for a lifetime and not be able to come up with a set of rules that would accommodate the majority of the population. Human emotions are just too complicated. 
Betty
Level 8
Nov 8, 2018
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My therapist said the usual time for the intense part of the grieving process is 12-18 months. And the loss of a relationship is, in many ways, like the death of someone you love.
I can't speak personally for the veracity of this, but as I am nearing the one-year mark myself, it seems possible.
Holy shit....based on those calculations, I will be dead before I am ready to date again?????
patchoullijulie
Level 8
Nov 8, 2018
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You're a little confused here... That's the rule for robots...
Cutiebeauty
Level 9
Nov 8, 2018
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My husband died 15 years into our relationship. Am I supposed to wait 7 1/2 years??
Untamedshrew
Level 7
Nov 8, 2018
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