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I just feel people are getting emotionless currently. It is so hard to meet someone. On dating websites girls are totally inactive and seems they never care about the msgs they have received and have no passion or interest to respond.
It is a crazy and cold world.

Julius9811 5 Dec 20
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Currently? Well then, just be happy it wasn't like this your entire life. Remember a positive attitude/energy is attractive. Dating is hard for most ppl, but look for the ones who are making the best of a situation. Be the warmth

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One thing that I have noticed on dating sites, it is that some of those people aren't there anymore. The site wants to make money and seem popular so they don't take people down when they leave. When you aren't getting responses, it might be because the person isn't there anymore. You may do better to only contact people who been online recently.

Another thing about dating sites, is that a lot of people are there for the wrong reasons. They are trying to get to know you to get you to join their club, or give them money or whatever. Then there are all those "hello" messages from people with nothing on their profile. There are people whose writing is riddled with spelling and grammatical errors, who say that they are native speakers of English and have advanced degrees. They are obviously lying.

To get a response, you need to distinguish. yourself from the spammers. You need to find someone whose profile really interests you and comment on something in it. You need to show yourself to be interesting to that person based on what your interests are.

I don't know about the other sites, but on Match it's very easy to see which profiles are dead or zombie profiles, where the member has not been active on the site for quite a while. Those profiles have no green dot of any type next to the member's name. I never bother messaging those profiles, but sometimes I still get fooled because there will be some type of green dot (full or partially filled) next to the name, but the member is already gone for good from the site because they only had a free one-week trial membership. As far as being there for the wrong reasons, some people may be married or on there just to stroke their ego about how much interest they can get without ever wanting to meet or date anybody. If so, either they have more money than me to blow on this or they are getting a free membership if they are a woman. And of course there are scammers on for the wrong reasons.

So irritating after creating a free profile, site then begins forcing payment to see the incoming messages. Worse when they refuse to deactivate your account. Swear they make you feel like Mr Right is trying to reach out but once you pay the membership, you now have the opportunity to meet the shirtless military man who is really a woman in Africa who needs my credit card number to send me a gift ??

@kraseyk So true.

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The world is a mirror of yourself.

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When giving up is an option, you will give up. Argue for your limitations and they are yours. Your attitude and context prevent success.

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It seems like the white night syndrome when I meet with women.

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I've looked at your 3 posts on this site
.
My best advice is to
just
chill
out.
Concentrate on making friends.. not "dates"..

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Are you sure their inactivity is due to being emotionless, or have they perhaps just been sent enough dick pics and messages of "hey sexy" that they are jaded by internet dating sites? Even as a sixty-something single woman I am astounded by the number of pervs I have to weed through in order to find a few men who seem somewhat sane and maybe not creepy, and then to decide who might be worth the risk of a face-to-face meeting. I can't even imagine how much worse this must be for women in their twenties and thirties.

Deb57 Level 8 Dec 21, 2018

not only on dating websites but also in every face-to-face event. We talk and leave, nothing more, although everyone is single.
So I don't have any more passion to go to events.

???

@JuliusZhu9811 At what point do you think a person should pause and say "Maybe it's me?"

@Donotbelieve " The answer is veering towards, "yes""

Ya.. I am a bit of a perv and little crazy ??
Unsure on creepy part? Lol

@JuliusZhu9811 "not only on dating websites but also in every face-to-face event. We talk and leave, nothing more, although everyone is single.
So I don't have any more passion to go to events."

Been there .. done that.. my biggest piece advice (again in a way) is to not go to events to find someone you can "pick up" .. go because your interested in the event itself and just want to be around other humans. Then try and talk to them with no agenda besides seeing them at the next event..

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Did You Ever Get Out of the House?

not only on dating websites but also in every face-to-face event. We talk and leave, nothing more, although everyone is single.
So I don't have any more passion to go to events.

I recommend you... take dance lessons... Ballroom, Swing, Salsa, Does Not Matter... Take Group Dance Lessons. You will meet many women there. Is a good environment. Studios have Meet Ups... and Dances. Houston is a Large City so there will be plenty.... Studios offer Group Classes and guess what? Most of the time There are More Females than Males... and that is a Skill For Life.. will open a lot of doors... Good Luck.

@GipsyOfNewSpain Use the websites for "Meetup" groups,wine tasting eating out,camera clubs,hiking,many categories there.

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You're probably a great guy. Women are probably not going to find out. It's dog eat dog out in the world. You have to take care of yourself and be the best you that you can be. And not worry about it. As if you'll spend the rest of your life alone, because you might.

I feel like everyone is concerned more with themselves than they are others. They're taking care of themselves and so should you. Live happily ever after. Enjoy yourself. Do things that you like. If it involves a woman, then it does. If you have no woman, enjoy yourself alone.

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I'm going to be nice and try and explain what you're doing so wrong. You've made four posts, all lamenting your lack of feminine companionship and desire for a girlfriend. You're not going to find a woman by whining that you don't have one. Present yourself as someone a woman would like to be with through your interactions with them via your posts and replies. Be a contributor to the discussion and an engaging personality and women will talk to you. This will take an ongoing effort that lasts for weeks or even months before they've made a favorable judgment about you.

This is the only time I'm going to explain this nicely. Now it's up to you.

@Donotbelieve I have my moments.

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It is, but after seeing the reception you got with your last post of this type, you are a glutton for punishment. And, no I am not being sarcastic or feeling any pleasure in saying this.

Some people on this site have empathy and are supportive of those suffering in the dating wars and some are not like that. Post at your own peril. And as for the dating scene, it really does feel like a war sometimes. I guess that's why many years ago I used to read a wonderful dating advice column in the Chicago Tribune. Guess what it was called? Tales From The Front. (As in front lines of the war). And that was even pre-internet when people actually had way more manners than now.

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