I saw this ad from Capital One (ironic coming from a bank) with 30-somethings(probably actors) talking about spending money on dates, some not working out and not being able to afford to keep doing it. I know that some will be all about "you don't have to spend money to have a good date" inserts ideas here That's all fine and well, and I know that, but I'm getting the impression that being on the poverty level isn't something that attracts mates, despite the feel good lie that people will like you for you no matter what. That occurred to me anytime I'm on a dating site and I can't take pictures of places I've traveled to, because I can't afford that. I can't mention any interesting hobbies because I can't afford to invest money. I can't pick anyone up because I don't have a car. You especially can't do it on disability; which I omit since it's welfare and I'm black, and people assume the worst since you're a person of color who doesn't work. I honestly think that I can't get friends or dates while poor. People assume that they have to pick up the tab and drive me around treating me like a charity case. They don't have to, because I can pay my own way but I can't afford to do it consistently and more often than not, I have to sit things out. Nothing more depressing than when you have to stay home while friends go out, or guys on tinder ghost you because you tell them you can't meet them for drinks because you have no car. Anyway, this is a thing in general - people not being able to afford real dates or social outings because they work just to make ends meet constantly. Or they're like me and can't afford to do anything at all. Poor while single sucks.