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Is it true that educated women do not want a relationship with a guy who has a good career, but is more of a hands on type worker?

Mom-goddess 6 Jan 20
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I don't think so, its based on individual differences

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Personally, I look for a partner who has integrity, shows respect for all people, can hold an interesting and provocative conversation and is fun to be around. Handy with her hands is certainly a bonus but far from a requirement.

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I know some pounce on me for the question I asked above, but it just proves what I've been saying to someone that believes educated women don't want anything to do with someone who has other skills.

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Kind of a blanket question, no? I suggest you ditch those back issues of Cosmopolitan......

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well, what in the universe would make you even consider the possibility that all educated women want the same damned thing? that's the most ridiculous premise i've heard since the last ridiculous premise i heard. (and who says working with your hands means you don't have a good career? do you know how much money construction workers can earn?)

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Sounds like nonsense to me...

Orbit Level 7 Jan 20, 2019
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I have to admit, it’s a huge plus!

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Being a "hands on type worker" does not always mean uneducated. Some educated guys are also great with their hands and know it's their best choice for a good living. If a woman thinks a man would be a limiting factor in her life, that's the kiss of death.

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The right guy for me will value and respect me, first and foremost. I admit, a hands-on handyman type of man turns me on.

Most guys these days don't know how to change the oil or transmission fluid in their cars. One guy didn't know what and where his O2 sensor was!

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My wife's first husband was a fellow classmate of hers in college. Didn't work out.
While we both have Master's degrees... our backgrounds are pretty different.
So... my response and question is:
Which is more important:
Educational level?
Family or social background?
Life experiences?
Personality?

@bigpawbullets Life experiences

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Not in my case

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No.

Certainly some educated people are judgmental about less educated people, but that's far from universal.

My wife has a master's degree, and I never even attended college beyond one year at an unaccredited church institution. But then I'm also a successful autodidact and out-earn her by quite a bit. Her concern and interest are more that I have integrity, good ethics, genuine curiosity, things like that, and that I treat her and her children with kindness and respect. As it should be.

The parallel in the workplace is that usually a degree requirement to fill a position is qualified with, "or equivalent experience". I can, and do, outperform college graduates in my field, some of whom could not program their way out of a paper bag. And a recruiter would be a fool not to consider my experience and accomplishments. Indeed, beyond roughly age 35, I don't recall anyone even inquiring about my degree or lack thereof, they were always hiring me away from other companies anyway because I clearly knew what I was doing.

Similarly if a woman is looking for an intellectual equal and she's got decent intellect herself, she'll recognize that there are multiple paths to learning and wisdom and multiple ways to demonstrate it.

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If me or anyone else had any idea of what women want, and l am including women in this, they would write a book and it would outsell every book in history, except maybe the Bible.

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It depends on the woman.

One of my Doctorate-level friends dates high-school-educated Latinos.

My other Doctor-level friend dates other doctorates. You can imagine the conflicting advice.

I have a Master's and I've dated doctorate level degree holders and once this guy that barey pulled off a G.E.D.

The truth of the matter is a PhD can treat you like crap, and a GED holder can treat you like crap. The idea is to appreciate those who don't treat us like crap.
My weakness is the physical appearance. Knowing when someone likes me for my mind and not other things. You would think at this point in life, I would have it figured out.

what a low bar -- not being treated like crap! but yeah, formal education and career choice do not in and of themselves reflect goodness of character, or compatibility, or any of the other things that are important in a relationship.

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It would entirely depend on the woman, I've never heard this...

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It would be rounding out and broadening of a relationship would it not?

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