@BohoHeathen

Thanks, dear! He was a dinosaur.

@LiterateHiker and fifty bucks say's he was a trump supporter.

Slam dunk?

@CallMeDave

Often we think of a great response a day later. I feel proud of being articulate, calm and clear by saying:

"I refuse to act stupid to mollify the insecure ego of a sexist man."

"Slam dunk" celebrates the moment.

yes I think you're right.
there is nothing better than some robust debating to keep the spark alive!

i want a smart female companion

@MsDemeanour Debate yes, condescending behavior no. Just because there is a lot of energy and momentum does not mean you should be together.

@creative51 THey weren't blanket statements.....statements were based on research studies. One was a metadata referring to 5 different studies [journals.sagepub.com] and another metadata analysis reviews 6 research studies. [journals.sagepub.com] Sorry it doesn't have all the conclusions there. Sage is reputable and I will access it thro my library to ensure the results cos I am interested in this. I am not about to base my personal opinion against robust research.

@MsDemeanour Why are people wasting time and money with these studies? Why does it matter?
Seriously, I don't get it. It's all just opinion.

@KKGator What you think of human behaviour is your opinion.The article is not the writers opinion, it was based on research studies. Personally I think human behaviour is fascinating. ANd it isn't a waste of time if it gives us greater understanding of what is happening socially.

@MsDemeanour I wasn't referring to the writer's opinion. I was referring directly to the opinions of those who were interviewed for the studies.
You are correct, however, what I think of human behavior IS my opinion.
My opinion of humans isn't very high. Studying human behavior has only solidified my opinions on that front.

@KKGator *My opinion of humans isn't very high. Studying human behavior has only solidified my opinions on that front.

Yes it IS depressing, but I remain hopeful in a more tolerant younger generation.

@MsDemeanour I hope you are not disappointed.

@creative51 Yes. I know that. I can cite my father who was proud of my mother's intellect. I can also vouch for my husband and 4 sons. And when I think of my male friends, they too are all comfortable with intelligent women. But my friends are chosen because of what they think. Just remember half your country voted for an imbecile over a woman, albeit there were other factors than just her sex. I wonder tho how much gender played a part.

thanks for pointing out that limitation to the study. Also since they were undergraduates one might assume a young demographic.

I learned a long time ago that ego is baggage and it is there just to get rid of. The good points, I cannot be insulted as to do so one would have to wait for me to be interested in hearing the comment. People say things, mean things, but I am not responsible for the way they see the world, just in how I react to them. If another person has a strong ego that is their problem not mine.

@MsDemeanour Oh gosh I hope not. My only hope for humanity is with the seemingly open minded and concerned young folk that I have come across.

We are human.

well said.

Send them my profile.

Because they won't date below their financial or class level with someone like me who would appreciate them. Instead they insist on only dating men at their own level of money and status who probably feel threatened and in competition with them. Men who can easily date someone younger or better looking to be a trophy wife and not any kind of threat or competition to their ego. Some pick mates for their achievement and how impressive their resume sounds when introducing them to friends, family, and at parties. The smarter folks choose according to who values relationships more than achievements and is better at actually doing them than most people are.

@TomMcGiverin Actually, the ones I've spoken with are looking for someone in an entirely different field -- like an artisan. They're not willing to support someone, but beyond that they don't care how much money a man makes. They want a supportive partner who can handle their crazy schedules.

@ladyprof70 The part about schedules makes sense, but I'm skeptical about your statements regarding men's occupation being that typical of female docs. And even so, it says that they will not date a blue collar or service worker (no matter how well educated or intelligent), even if he can support himself. Probably because that would sound too embarrassing to their high income, upper class friends. As always, money or social class rear their heads in the selection process.....

@ladyprof70 @TomMcGiverin It is no more true for women than it is for men about who makes the most $. Our previous Prime Minister (a woman) had a partner ( shock horror they weren't married) and he was a hair dresser.

@ladyprof70 I can be "like an artisan". Neck beard, black sweaters and an old old Prius.

@MsDemeanour I guess I didn't make my point clearly. It seems to me that 'smarts' are more important to smart women than education. For example, I have a number of advanced degrees and for a while I dated a really smart truck driver with a high school education.. He had read more of the classics than I had. While it isn't always true, people tend to gravitate toward people who are similar. People who value education tend to get more. And more education tends to open more doors career-wise.

Controlling another is a lot of work and the reward is not worth the effort. I would much rather know people who can think and discuss. If you want a good return on your effort allow freedom.

@dalefvictor My older brother has always been a controlling person. He controlled our lives since childhood. He controlled my parents and they allowed him to abuse all of us. It’s not a surprise what kind of woman he would want to be with.

@graceylou At some point doesn't this just get old and tiring. I hope you have been able to remove yourself from that, no one deserves that.

@dalefvictor I don’t iive close to them. Once in awhile I hear from my family but otherwise I’m not often in the wind.

@graceylou Bad sheep of the family, join the club, the water is fine.

Independence is good but it also good to do things together and enjoy each others company.

Most women here wouldn't date a man who wasn't intelligent, emotionally strong and independent either. But yes we might all be atypical here.

I take exception to the statement that non-believers are a smaller part of the population than gays. That simply cannot be true.

@MsDemeanour I'm going by the statistics I've read. Gays and lesbians are supposedly about 10% of the population. Agnostics and atheists are supposedly about 2-3% of it.

@TomMcGiverin, @MsDemeanour I'm thinking that both groups are ''coming out'' in increasing numbers. Statistics are hard to compile when people are living in places like Kansas, Missouri, etc.

I'm going to check out the sources. I found two.

that's probably because you still play with cars

So you infer by that , that men have a higher IQ?

@MsDemeanour Of course not...My point is that very intelligent people are relatively scarce (in the population in general) and finding a very intelligent woman was problematic for a person especially such as myself who did not have many social connections. See my bio...Asperger's Syndrome, High Functioning.
Why do you ask...do you know any?

@dahermit Ah I see you're dilema. Very intelligent people are scarce.

Havn't we as women always known this though?