I have always been overweight and have been insulted and/or made fun of too many times to count.

The neighbor kids used to call me tugboat. One of their mothers told me I couldn't wear a tube while swimming because I'd get stuck. My friend's sister told me that no man would ever love me. Boys on the bus made fart noises when I sat down.

When I worked retail, I hurt my back and was put on light duty. Their solution was to sit me out by the garden center gate to act as a greeter. Some guys came driving past the gate and yelled to me how I was a fat and lazy employee and that I needed to get up and do some physical work. Another time I was on the phone helping a customer set up their cell phone. A young girl came up to me to ask me for help and, since I couldn't leave the phone, I told her I'd be right with her. Later my coworker told me that she came up to him and angrily said, "That fat girl over there won't help me!" A little girl in a shopping cart once looked at me and shouted, "You're a fat boy!" Not sure why she thought I was a boy, but that's beside the point. Her father didn't even apologize to me. He only asked her why she would say that.

My point in saying all this is that shit sticks with you. You've been conditioned your whole life into believing that you're somehow inferior because of your weight. Even as an adult, you're given a message that you're gross and unhealthy. Clothing, while improving, is harder to shop for when you're plus size. It's usually in a different section of the store and is often frumpy and unflattering. As if you are unworthy of looking nice.

Despite all this, I can not imagine being used as some kind of fuck trophy. To be considered nothing more than a sexual achievement for any reason is one of the the most vile things I have ever heard of. And on top of that, making it about someone's weight, when they've had a literal multitude of other issues is lowest of the low. What a complete and utter tool.

My mother was heavy and so I basically grew up without the need for a person to be a particular size in order for me to be able to respect and love them.

In all honesty I have observed a lot of this kind of vapid, juvenile stuff from women as well as men. I was, twenty years ago, 100 pounds over my ideal weight myself, and while as a man, I got away with that better than women generally do, and so didn't notice that I was treated in an overtly negative way, what I did notice when I lost 80 of those pounds was that people suddenly started treating me, not just in an neutrally polite manner, but in a dramatically more proactively positive and affirming manner.

This really honked me off because I realized that people had been quietly judging me and withholding from me all those years based on nothing more substantial than my weight. It ended up serving as a motivation to successfully keep that weight off because I wasn't by dog going to ever give those asshats an excuse to judge me ever again.

Recently I read someone writing into one of the advice columnists about the fact her sister was obese and would not "take care of herself", causing the letter writer to be angry and to treat her sister badly. She recognized this was evil, but could not seem to help herself. It's a classic example of a person who can't handle mortality -- theirs or others -- which makes them terrified, which in some people, results in anger because it gives them some feeling of control over a situation that, in fact, they not only have no control over, but no business controlling.

So ... this is not limited to men, women are perfectly capable of the same shittiness.

What gets me is 'plus size'. Since when did anyone over size ten become plus? I'm naturally thin and don't have a dog in this fight so to speak. But the majority of normal sized women are now considered plus? Men aren't held to the same standard. But when are they ever

This is definitely a sad sickening story. I too am sure it is not an isolated incident. I am also sure that there are still some decent guys around.

So.
You generalize "Men", because of the actions of a small few?
I've dated what turned out to be complete psycho's, yet I don't assume that all women are like that.
Honestly to me, that sounds rather shallow.
JMHO.

Not uncommon at all in the dating world. I gave up as well. It seems that the only thing that makes men happy is using and shaming women. Men's sexuality is primarily sadistic, they're just not worth it.