I'm sitting here mentally preparing myself to go to my martial arts class while in the process of preparing for a disability claim and wonder if it seems silly or hypocritical to cling to a physically demanding hobby when you can't hold a pencil? It's exercise yes, which is good, but my doctor wants me to switch to yoga or Tai chi, but I just really love taekwando. I only go once a week, and do limited impact moves, but it's hard on me.
I've already lost so many of my passions to this damn disability, so many hobbies marked a casualty, killed by my brokenness. I can no longer shoot archery, ride horses, shoot guns (while properly supervised), drawing, and biking.
It's frustrating beyond belief, and people say "if it's painful just stop" as if it's so easy to give up the things you love.
Sorry, small moment of melancholy. Well, less melancholy more anger.
I'm just angry. I'm angry and I want to just beat my body into submission so I can have my way.
Anyone else go through what it's like?
You have a right to be angry, you have lost things and it's not your fault. I was extremely angry when my back went bad, the limitations I have prevent me from doing 75% of the things I used to do.
Now that being said, try to expand what hobbies you can do if possible. Do not let the disability rule your life or define you. "If it's painful just stop" isn't the best advise because you can cause further damage. You didn't state what is causing the problems; I have a bi-level lumbar fusion, 2 more collapsed vertebrae in mid and upper spine, nerve damage affecting the left foot, osteoparosis, osteoarthritis and a few other things wrong. My doc told me to do what my back allowed, but I plod along and have discovered a few new hobbies. Whatever you do just take it easy and don't hurt yourself any further, please. It's going to be up to you to decide what you can or can't do. Good luck and I hope you find happiness in doing something you enjoy.
I have a few friends who became disabled following cycling accidents, Some of them then took up martial arts as it allowed them to maintain fitness by concentrating on the other parts of their bodies and build on it to develop styles that suited them. My guess would be martial arts are a very good sport for many disabled people!
I feel for you, and as someone with an invisible disability, I've experienced similar. I decided, don't give up what you love until you absolutely can't do it anymore. The things you love the most give you the energy to do them. That said, Tai chi IS slow motion martial art and you might enjoy it.
Oh yeah....I have lots of injuries...broken bones and the like...if you want to do an art that you can expand upon, become damn good at, and have body issues, JU JITSU!!! Taekwando is awesome, though....don't want anyone coming over and tornado kicking me into the next year....anger is good, you can convert that to energy....positive energy....
I hear you.
I can't do any impact exercise at all anymore. I'd end up in a knot of spasticity.
Yes it's hard to give up things you love!
You can find new loves though.
I don't know but are there any martial arts that are move about movement than impact?
I did Yoga (In a classroom) for 7 years - and the teacher was aware of my disabilities. Therefore no inversions etc... But I really enjoyed it. When I went into "Cobra" one day and my neck and back both locked up - I had to give it up.(no not the first time I'd locked up on the mat). But there are still poses I can do.
Also the breath learning was awesome.
Do what you enjoy while you can.
My daughter gets down sometimes, and it is her martial arts and her friends there that keep her going, she is not disabled but life is still tough.
I have a friend who has been on disability for almost 20 years, been very ill at times, but goes to the gym for weights then the pool for long swims, the only times she doesn't is when she is in hospital. Do it and never feel guilty.
Somewhat. I was in a dance ensemble for 3 years but just recently decided to go back into it by joining another ensemble. I sprained my ankle on the first day there and that was the first time I ever sprained it, so not walking properly wasn't fun. Nor was waiting 3 months to get back to it, despite wanting to go back ASAP.
Do not go quietly into that cold, dark night. Fight it with everything you have. I don't necessarily have a disease but I know what it's like to receive body blows after body blow and it seems like you can't do any of the things you love. With you in the struggle. Peace.
I was diagnosed with Interstitial Cystitis about 6 years ago and it brought a fulfilling, active and deeply loved life to a screeching halt.
Girl....you get out there and find and experience joy whenever and wherever you can regardless of what anyone else says or does.
This is your life and nobody else has to live it but you.
EDS - Ehler's Danlos Syndrome.
My niece's wife has this condition (it's genetic). So I recognized it immediately from @LadyAlyxandrea
It's a connective tissue disorder and can lead to frequent dislocation(s). Obviously pain (chronic).
See here: [ehlers-danlos.com]
I don't have any disabilities, but I talk to people every day that do. Hello, I'm possibly your claims examiner. Actually the odds of that are pretty slim. I say do what you need to do for your mental health as long as you can do it and it isn't further disabling you.
You did not tell us why you have this disability. I have in the past been disabled, once at age 49, when I hydraplaned on wet pavement and hit a concrete driveway culvert, head on. I ruptured discs in my neck and lower back. Plus, I did not get the proper PT, after the accident and I refused to get surgery. It took way over a year to recover past that pain. Then, I had arthritis set in and for the next 15 years I was not without pain. Off and on I got some relief from PT and also, when i worked out at fitness center to build all my body muscles. I did get complete relief after I had lower back surgery, last year. It is like a miracle. But, I am an exception, not the rule and I can't say exactly why I am completely pain free now. But, what I can say, looking back...I was struggling with so many different things in my life! I was divorced, had no meaningfull work and could barely support myself. I had a few friends, but no support from my family. And, worst of all, I was in the throes of finding out who/what I really was. Because, I was not grounded in any kind reality of who I was. I was just 'acting' a part that I made up as I went along. I believe, I would have helped myself more...had I concentrated all my efforts on developing my 'inner personal self,'...my body would have been 'happier!' No one size fits all...but, know yourself, honor the needs of your body! One must not go blindly, if something does not agree with your core value, then skip that...whatever, you do, it should add to your overall strength and wellbeing, not deplete it.
I feel you, more than you know.
The only thing I'm going to say about the physical exertion is that, even if you're not doing a
full work-out, the fact that you still attend the class, can be used against you.
Good luck with your claim, I hope it goes through smoothly and you don't have to fight.
It's really difficult to adjust to an entirely new reality. One that's been forced on you, through
no fault of your own. It's going to take time, and probably a lot of effort, but it CAN be done.
You'll learn new ways of doing things. You'll be okay. Feel free to message me if you need
to talk, rant, cry, or otherwise vent.
I hope you keep doing what you love. Even if it is hard to.
I have Fibramialgia and the best thing I ever did for it was get into lifting weights and eventually into competative powerlifting. Resistance training has been shown to really help with many conditions like this. But even more if you love it and it inspires you. Sure you could switch to yoga or something but would it inspire you?
And remember we can be affected by placebo and nocebo, so if you tell yourself you can do it, it will likely have better results than telling yourself you can't.
I looked up eds on wikipedia. nasty disease. marijuana couldhelp with pain and will feel better. i have disability and not ashamed to be on welfare as I am worthy of what I get I have the internet. It is good you are doing martial arts but there is no point in being angry as that is just futile. Good news, CRISPR, gene editing technlogy is in trail for use in humans and your faulty gene can be replaced. Give is 5-10 years and you can be cured. There is one unciviled and backward country that does NOT have Universal Health Care and cheap medicines (which they could easily). I live in Australia and medical treatment is FREE here, Google CRISPR and have hope. Cheers!
But to more directly answer you. Hurt my shoulder in tkd, newb kept hitting me80-90%, (supposed to be going through new moves 10%at the time so I thought I could continue). Ended up having shoulder surgery, off tkd a year, couldn’t run, tried walking, couldn’t keep new dog leash controlled when she saw a deer. Fell in ditch! Face bloody, oh, gained 20# cuz eating same but zip for exercise. Sensei moved. 2 yr now, just doing a little exercise. Getting there but I don’t recover so fast at 68! There’s mountains I want to climb! Oh wah, I guess they ll wait...
You can beat your body into submission and it will merely submit briefly- or you can make friends with your body,don’t force it anymore than you would any other friend- a little teasing here or there of course, but don’t be mean! And your body will go where you need to go.
I think yoga is great for martial arts!
I am sorry. I do understand the anger, I was an active person, when my knees and back had OA, and I had to go on disabilty. I used to bike all over and the Dr. says that is going to be painful and hard on my knees (it is), he did not forbid me from doing it though. I was not very angery, but I had a lot of greiving to do. I lost a part of who I was. I should be happy, I went from bed-bound for 2 years, to being able to get out.
Better make sure no private investigator is following you. They may provide evidence with photos of you doing taekwando to deny your disability claim.
Taekwando, or any martial arts, can be low impact. But insurers may see it differently - if you don't provide proof that you're following a low-impact version of it.
But, yeah, it sucks being limited to what you can do.