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Hey Divorcees! Which is probably nearly everyone on here. Would you consider getting married again or would you prefer to keep current and future relationships on a less legally bound level? I understand the place for marriage when you are young and having children but what would be the purpose for older people not in this situation?

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JCII 5 Apr 1
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So, as everyone can see, I have a bias against not getting married. Not a horrible bias but an illuminating factor bigger than true love would have to come in to clear focus for such an event to occur. It doesn't seem likely for me ever again.. Mainly marriage is a financial contract and since I have no interest in paying someone else's bill's or buying them a house or the reverse or even splitting the bills, I'm going to say it would be an impediment to living a good clean life. I can't see myself or my partners willing to say the "till death do us part" when I know full well even a great relationship may peter out in a year or to, so why get the legal forces involved in what is most likely going to turn out to be short or medium term. If the relationship goes longer then no harm no foul.

JCII Level 5 Apr 3, 2019
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Level 4

I won't marry a Christian again, and I won't get married in a church, but I would consider getting married again.

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Level 9

That's a hard one. Probably not

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Level 8

We talked about a civil partnership. I think I could manage that.

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Level 7

The only reason I could think of is to get them on my health insurance.

That's something I would not do! Maybe this is for another thread but helping someone out in that way creates legal binding that I would rather avoid.

@JCII
I held off on a divorce, so my ex could have surgery. No big deal. Getting married was more of a hassle than the divorce.
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Level 4

Will be getting married to my fourth wife!! Live life the fullest I always say! ?

This could also be considered serial monogamy, it can be done w/o getting married you know. How did you happen upon a fourth marriage, and why do you think it will help you live better than remaining unmarried?

@JCII ..it seems I had bad luck .. but I’m not giving up on marriage ... if my great grandparents stayed married over 65 years together... then there’s hope

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Level 8

i did it again.
don't do it. just ruins a good relationship.

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Level 8

I’m one of the odd ones out here. I have no desire to get into a domestic partnership situation. I hope to get married again... or I’ll just keep on by myself.

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Level 8

Less legally bound!

BD66 Level 8 Apr 1, 2019
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Level 8

Did it again, but for all the legal rights and insurance stuff. Whole wedding including marriage license was 120 bucks - much cheaper than domestic partnership paperwork and waiting time for DP residency in New Mexico. Had to wait 3 days after getting license, 12 months for DP.

1of5 Level 8 Apr 1, 2019
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So, in new mexico they push for marriage? Why do you need file domestic partner or get married? Is it for insurance purposes?

@JCII pretty much insurance and legal rights just living together doesn't give you, but we knew we were going to get married eventually anyways.

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Level 5

I would love to hear from anyone who does desire to get married. Not that I want to marry you, I just want to hear from you!

JCII Level 5 Apr 1, 2019
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Ok lets get married. You hire the venue I'll sort out the frock 😉

@Amisja If you mean clothes, we won't need any!
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Level 7

It would have to be the absolutely perfect situation to ever marry again, and after 20 years, that's unlikely to happen.

Right, I realize that everyone is not like me but I can't even imagine a perfect situation in which I would desire marry again.

@JCII Luckily, my long term relationships in the past 20 years since my divorce have lived close by and had their own homes to go back to every day. Even an overnight visit , with them staying most of the next day gives me an anxiety attack. Too used to my freedom and solitude in my own home.

@crazycat329 So maybe it's best to just stay for a cup of coffee and a bagel?

Maybe,,,then, be gone.l..lol @JCII

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Level 9

I have to have a post-marriage relationship first, before I can make that decision.

I feel that. My marriage was so terrible I can’t imagine ever wanting to do it again. But maybe I would feel differently if someone actually loved and appreciated me.

@A2Jennifer My marriage wasn't terrible at all, but it's been so long since I've had a relationship that wasn't my marriage, that it's hard to picture what it would be like.

@tnorman1236 I’m glad not everyonr’s Experience wasn’t bad. I Married my high-school boyfriend so I have never dated and trying to conceptualize any relationship, especially one not like the only one I have experienced, is unimaginable.

@A2Jennifer Hopefully you'll find another relationship that will be better.
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