I'm going to see my brother tomorrow. I haven't seen him in ten years, at my father's funeral. He's Christian and a trumpster. I'm not looking forward to it. I don't know how I feel about him. He brought his wife and daughter to visit my Mom. He hasn't seen her in more than five years. I need to hold myself together. And suggestions?
Honey , if he hasn't harmed u intentionally , or not a bad human afterall , then I ll dare to say , hoping not offending u or scratching wounds , give him a hug and try to really visit w him ?
10 yrs , long time There have to be some good memories somewhere ? Make peace if u can . Who knows what he is going through in last 10 yrs ! And he does not know what u went through . I am excited that u will see your own blood . I have a good feeling . Speak no politics or religion . Think of u and him as children , long ago . Nothing else matters . As we growing older , we become these children again some how . ♥️♥️♥️
If he begins to focus the dialog on religion or politics, I would simply say, " I came here to focus on our family and on the good things we have shared., not to argue about religion or politics. I ask you to keep the same positive focus and not destroy it." If he does not honor your request, I would walk out on the dialog.
These types of meetings can be difficult due to past issues between people. Try to just be in the moment and focus on your mom and the fact that he is there to see her. Should your brother start bringing up his faith or anything political either try and change the subject or make an excuse to leave the room. No reason to put yourself through his toxic beliefs. I hope for your sake the visit goes smooth.
Fortunately, I get along with my siblings. Some of my extended family, even first cousins, led me to the conclusion that my family are those I love and support and those who reciprocate. Relatives, in many cases, are just those people with whom I share some ancestry.
I'm damn near a socialist (Libertarian Socialist - Noam Chomsky), but I have a couple of family members that could be considered right wing and are Trump supporters. I always enjoy spending time with them. We joke around, do fun things, eat and drink, and nothing bad ever happens. We respect each other. We know that because there might be differences of opinion with some things that it doesn't mean the others are bad people. They really aren't political though. We never argue. We are very family oriented. We would do anything to help each other.
I think if it's not a fundamentalist mentality then it's salvageable. If it is, then I don't think anything is going to help.
He is not going to change. We pick our friends but nor our family. I would say, try to make the best of it. I have a similar situation, after all they are human just like the rest of us, except they have wacky ideas. Take a couple of photographs with them, and save them for posterity.
I didn't go to my mom's funeral because of relatives just like that. I wish I had any expertise here. About all I can offer is - You can't argue with stupid. Stupid is there no matter how logically you explain or how loud you yell. Might just as well keep talk to a minimum and get the hell out when you can.
Sounds like the focus should be on your mom, so try to keep it there. If your brother tries to bring his faith or politics into the situation, ignore it as much as possible. Don't let him bring you down to his level. I have similar difficulties with my brother, who also claims to be an xtian and is a trumplodyte. I love a good argument, but have to put those impulses on hold when around family. They count on it, if not outright need it, so there's something deeply satisfying in denying them. Good luck on your visit!
Be patient, listen, act interested in his entire family and career not TrumpOLINI or alleged baby gawds birthed in dirty donkey stables or alleged survivor of a temporary crucifixion this Sunday Palestinian weekend....it's THORSday and hopefully you won't arrive upon your bro sacred ground during xian heat season