@MissKathleen , so true, today there's a lot of he don't, I says...etc

@MissKathleen thank you, it’s a lost cause. Moving forward is the tough part.

@sandrarocks83 Unfortunately, the "toughness" of moving forward often causes us to move back, which I know from experience is a really bad idea. Good luck to you.

@MissKathleen I was married to a narcissist for 11 years. She was a drug addict and I ended up having open heart surgery because of the stress. She was in rehab at the time of open heart surgery. The day I got out of surgery she asked me to buy her a car when she was in rehab. I said Hell no. She went a week without even asking me how I was doing or how I felt. That was the wakeup call for me. I had a picture in my mind of who she was and it was definitely not who she really was

@MissKathleen It is not about you. It about the quote.

So why the hell do I keep scratching my head and saying, does that horse look a little strange to you?

@UpsideDownAgain The horses that never seem to finish in the money look strange to me... stop betting long shots.

@MissKathleen True...the mask slips fairly quickly usually.

@MissKathleen Type A. Are you a Leo?

When I was in HS my 2 most hated subjects were English and History. I ended up majoring in European history in the university and later discovered I loved to write. Unfortunately, I also recognized how important was grammar (still not anywhere near perfect, though). When one reads the 'crank mail' to FFRF one thing that is so obvious is the bad spelling and grammar. Yes, the message is important and yes we too often look at the messenger more than the message but, to me, grammar is part of the message. My question was mainly about why spell/grammar (did you notice I misspelled grammar?) check did not recognize the n't endings of some words?

@MissKathleen My spell/grammar check is funny. Sometimes it shows the word highlighted in red and I can't make a change and sometimes it underlines the word and does show the correct usage. With these words it was highlighted and I had to do a separate word check which showed the correct spelling (which was what the check showed was wrong - it did this for several words as shouldn't, couldn't).

I figured the image was just that and not your writing so it was not about you but societies general failings on the importance of grammAr (I want to constantly use e). Maybe I'm just a word snob but words do matter.

I would have wanted you to point it out. I believe in being assertive (there is a difference in assertive versus aggressive).

To answer your question, neither (I would be a terrible teacher - I know from experience + my late partner constantly told me so). Me, a diplomat? lol. I was living in Europe in the old part of town in a house built in 1680. I took a history course as a part of the liberal arts and one particular instructor was a great professor. He was very non-traditional and names, dates and such were not that critical. We even got to go places we studied. 2 weeks in Rome studying the Papacy. I once made a trip to Verdun, France and was fascinated about the place and got interested in the first world war (and still am). We went everywhere, Normandy, Nuremberg, Basel to study humanism and on and on. Since I was working for the University classes were free (and I got paid for classes under the military educational bill) and after graduating I continued to audit classes (again back to Verdun in a WWI history course taught by a British woman who mainly taught math). I did have some sense and made business admin my secondary which eventually got me into grad school for a certification in Records Management. To me history is not just about the past but also about the future. People don't really change that much. Thanks for asking.

@Deiter I see your point but disagree. Miss Kathleen and I are friends and I, for one, believe in a person being assertive. Besides, we all should be able to admit when we have made a mistake. My late partner was very assertive and it is a skill to be able to do so and not be aggressive. She had no problem with being 'confrontational' (she actually enjoyed it). No one ever got offended at things she said. On the other hand, my mother was the world's biggest wimp. She always complained but never said anything to the person she was complaining about. In the end it hurt her and she suffered.

@MissKathleen So what have you been thinking?

I have noticed that often this site will not allow me to post contractions; not always, but often enough to be annoying. Their have been a number of times that I have had to go back and type in "can not" because I couldn't put a hyphen in can't. (Obviously working now.)

@StevenWilbur I have noticed the same and it has not changed. I know it's right so ignore the issue.

@MissKathleen Could we agree that actions speak as loud as words?

@MissKathleen I did say "most times". I like to think possitive. I think it pays back "most times". Be well.

@MissKathleen Yeah, some people are fucked up. I try to not be around them. They have to live in their own filth.