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WTF do people mean by unicorn here?
chazwin
Level 6
May 12, 2019
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Lol I think some people are being silly.
For me, it’s difficult to find someone who understands or “gets” what it’s like to have depression. They do the whole “why not just be happy?” Thing. DUH, I can’t believe I never thought of that! Of course, I’ll just ignore my chemically imbalanced brain and will just be happy. Thanks so much!
Much like the non-existent unicorn, an understanding single male partner has been mythical for me
I have always been supportive and understanding with my wife, like a unicorn, but that sounds a little like symptoms of Psychosis and that cannot be treated with just love...
Merseyman1
Level 9
May 12, 2019
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Not my meme, stole it off Facebook. But definitely kudos to you. Some days I’m going to have off days and not be my usual bubbly self. I just want someone who will be kind and understanding on those days as well as the good ones.
Not trying to be critical, but I would never expect that kind of support from someone in a relationship, at least not as a burden I was putting on them from the beginning. That's what therapists are for, being the primary person helping you cope. I'm glad that I am not so broken that I need a woman for a partner that can make me ok and able to cope. I don't know anyone who would agree to that burden from the get go. I was willing and able to do that for my late wife after she got dementia, but I won't do that again for someone from the outset of dating them. I wouldn't be able to handle it again so soon, if ever. That's why I won't date someone way older than me. I'd like to be with someone who will hopefully be healthy for a decade at least.
TomMcGiverin
Level 8
May 11, 2019
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I can understand that from your point in dealing with dementia. However as someone who has depression and who’s ex husband did not try to learn about depression or anxiety, I can say I will not be with someone who doesn’t care about me enough to have compassion to want to help me or learn about it.
I do not need a partner to fix me. However I do need a partner to know that sometimes I’m going to be a mess emotionally. Sometimes I’m just going to need to be held. Sometimes I’m going to need some compassion. I would certainly do the same for someone else.
I’m not looking to be “fixed.” Just to be understood and not ignored
@Marcie1974 Understood Marcie. I was not trying to be critical of you and I respect that you are honest about your needs, which seem fair and realistic. I hope you are able to find a man that is caring, strong, and healthy enough to give you what you need.
@TomMcGiverin thank you. I do sympathize with what you went through. But depression and anxiety are much different than dementia.
@Marcie1974 Agreed.
I've been mistaken for a unicorn quite a bit lately! Fuck that!
Wildflower
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May 11, 2019
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