I deleted all my adopted family off Facebook beside my mom...they all disowned me when I came out as an atheist
Welcome. I would reinforce what some have said here: losing your family, despite their cruelty, can be earth-shattering. Please make sure you surround yourself with supportive and emotionally healthy people in real life. You'll find plenty of people like that online here . Good luck and peace.
Fuck em, they're not real family or friends if they are that petty. When this sort of thing happens, it's a clear indicator who really cares about you and who is nothing more than some insincere prick.
Those that are willing to disown family or friends over such a benign thing that is no different than a thought crime were never accepting of you from the start. They only expect you fall in line and uphold tradition for its own sake. You will find out in time that you are better off without those people in your life being negative influences, so keep a strong stride and be happy you now know who truly cares about you.
They do the same thing to people who come out as gay, trans, or who even change church affiliations.
In my family, it was for divorce; I was ostracized when my cheating ex ran off with a younger woman (to my vast relief). But according to them, somehow, I was to blame, and my religious mom would plead for me to try harder to please him!
In the 1970s, my mom didn't write me for a year after I mentioned I was attending a different church denomination
Cheer up My dear Friend you are not suffering alone
Take me for example,
Here in my country, atheism is Refused by society and soon will by criminalize by law
So when they know this about me
They suspended me from work and later expelled me permanently and deleted my license
my family let me down they claimed that am dead,
I had to move away from my neighborhood I wasn't able even to walk on street or buy the grocery.
I was I got Beaten on street by complete strangers I don't know any one of them they broke into
my apartment throw out all my stuff on the street and put it on fire and
I could not Fill an official complaint about this, I'll be miss treated in the station if I try to do,
No one will accept that am atheist man on police station and want to comply about any thing,
They wil put me in Jail no matter what.
I had to close my Face-book account it's closed more than 3 years and lot to say but that's enough don't need to make it longer than this or tbother you with reading,
So, I know it's might be different in your case but for me I got used to it. Am always lonely rejected and always afraid to speak my mind or express my self actually this site is totally blocked in my country so I can't imagine what comes next.
For me am always try to be prepared don't know for what but that's makes me always afraid
it's my imminent (Xenophobia) it's the fear from the unknown
So don't fell lonely again We all here for you.
That's got to be tough and heartbreaking, but they are definitely in the wrong for failing to accept you. Here's hoping you enjoy warm, close friendships with people who like, appreciate, and accept you for who you are. Seems like you are getting lots of support from folks here. Adding my hugs and support!
Last time I checked Atheists are the most hated minority in the U.S. It's certainly not easy we're told to shut up while all the religious folks can express themselves no questions asked. I hope to lessen this stigma in my lifetime. One can hope. Too many family members reacted terribly after finding out my religious preference.
I worry about my family & friends finding out too. They don’t know I gave up my faith. Plus I found out a few years ago my youngest sister and her husband are also closet atheist. When my parents found out my boyfriend is an open & loud atheist, I got the 3rd degree and 20 questions about it. Now 3 years later my parents call him son but we all don’t talk about reglious things out of respect.
I know that's tough, @MayRebel because I've been through the same. Okay, it was 60+ years ago, but the rejection is the same and I do remember it. Only my mother understood and accepted me for who I was. She was cool about the whole thing.
Bear in mind, family is not restricted to blood line (well, technically it is) and perhaps you can build a semblance of family here and in other places where we are accepted without conditions.
I know it's a small consolation to have a bunch of strangers sending you messages of support. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I didn't have anything like that I'm my own life. My family didn't understand but they didn't disown me. I think the worse thing was that my mom told me that her biggest regret was not instilling God in her children at an early age. I was like, before I learned to reason you mean?
Maybe they will come around... Assuming you still want them in your life. I hope things get better for you.