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So there is a condolence card in the break room for one of my coworkers who’s dad just died. It has a bible verse on the front and may God give you peace stuff inside. I don’t really want to put my name on it. Would you?

LisaL81 7 Aug 22
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It doesn't hurt to sign it and the grieving loved ones of the deceased person may appreciate your condolances. SIgn it.

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Listen, Lisa. You are a self, and you have your name.

You are your own property to do what you want with yourself. That's your immutable right, and no one can ethically try to coerce you into doing stuff. Self is a sacred, invaluable thing.

Absolutely nobody should be stupid enough to assume they can tell you what to do, what to think, etc. because those people are already proving themselves as inferiors by making their filthy and base reactive assumptions.

That being said, you should never have the inclination that other people should tell you how to be, because they have one brain for one body, to start with. People who think they can extend past themselves are simply egotistical and have low intelligence.

If you want to write your name, write your name. Don't want to? That's 10000% okay, and a NON-REFLECTIVE TRUTH.

You might certainly write someone else's.

Hell, you can even write the name of the father that died. You can even use a man's handwriting if you want to. That would be funny as hell. I make jokes about people dying all the time. After all, I'm not the one sitting clueless about how to bring them back, it's the inferiors that do that with their stupid anti-science policies.

I don't care if you even draw a Hippo, you can draw one. I'm sure some of the men on this site will enjoy beating their meat to it if you posted a picture, anyway, considering some of the women they go after.

Write nothing, and pretend to write something. That's another idea.

Take a piss on the damned card, if you want to. It's called "there's a bigger picture".

Ultimately, your turnouts are going to depend on you doing the right thing, and nobody has any right to tell you what to do. Women should know this shit, it's 2019.

The men know it, and they live it much moreso than anyone else.

Why haven't you gotten with the program?

@LisaL81

Any thoughts on this? It's been a month.

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Nope.

I also hope you don't allow anyone to guilt you into it, either.
The whole "what does it hurt?" line of "reasoning" is precisely
how we've gotten to the point where the believers scream discrimination if they're told to keep their delusions to themselves.

I don't mind pissing people off. You know, since most of them don't
seem to mind pissing me off. Turnabout is fair play.

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i would, but i would write something personal and not mention god.

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I would as a formality. I would not make a fuss about it at work. He or she is just another individual who happens to believe in Jesus. If you can talk to him or her, you can surely sign the note.

There are a lot of other places to do it (like here 🙂

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I would simply because it means nothing to me but I'd probably be rolling my eyes while signing it.

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Is he religious / believer ? If yes , I would . It doesn't matter . It's about his darkest moment , he lost a parent . Is not about me or god right now . Who cares . Definitely not the coworker . Losing a parent is hard 🙁 Losing gods and devils is easy . Not real .

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Give them another condolence card of your choosing. Something that actually states how YOU feel.

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Ya, well, I would! That's not the time to take a stand or make a "political" statement,
so to speak. "Just do it"!

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Absolutely. As an atheist, I have no faith in a deity, but would not choose another's time of grief to promote that viewpoint. Such a tactic is notoriously used by the J.W.s

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yes don't even think of saying no

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You could buy a card of your own choosing .

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I’d absolutely sign my name to it. It doesn’t mean you agree with the religious statements, just that you are showing support during their time of grief. And I find it’s best to comfort people in the way that works for them; it’s about their comfort, not ours.

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I would write a short note on the card with your name. “My deepest condolences in this time of grief”.

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Yes I definitely would .If you like your coworker why the heck would you not want to attempt to make them feel better at a time like this .Let people believe in their fairytales .I believe in shoving my non belief aside to make another person feel better .

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Condolences are not a statement of your belief

bobwjr Level 10 Aug 22, 2019
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Yes. Sign it. I just say things like "My thoughts are with you and let me know what I can do."
I let others pray for them, etc.

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I would go with the option of giving them another card. The card is the important thing, right? If they get more cards, they tend to feel like there is more attention given to their grief compared to one card with lots of signatures. So if they get the attention, they will feel like more support is offered and thus they can feel more assured in their grief, in that they will get support from more people if needed. Then again, I'm not really a people person, nor do I believe I really understand these rituals for condolences.

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Sure, this is not about me, but them. l lose nothing by signing, and if it gives them the slightest bit of comfort, that is what is important. That is me. You have to do what you feel is best.

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Yes, I would to give that person some peace. Just don't put your name anywhere near the bible verse.

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Yeah, I would hold my nose and do it. There are times in life when it’s not about me.

skado Level 9 Aug 22, 2019
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Well, while I understand and agree with the popular opinion of "this is not the time", I have a question before I can answer...

Is the person who lost their father religious?
If so, I would sign the card - it's about supporting them, not my personal beliefs (or non-beliefs).
OR
Is the person who lost their father not very religious and the person who picked up the card more religious (and pushing their beliefs)? If this is the case, I would no sign it, and would instead, pick up a card myself to show support.

Of course, if I don't know either of the people involved, I may not even bother to sign the card at all.

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The card isn't about you. Either offer your condolences to the grieving or don't. Seems like a weird way to make a stand though

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