My mother is having a family cookout on Friday.
She is inviting my half uncle who I have avoided and not seen for a year. He used to sell my sister(who is a recovering addict)drugs. Aside from that, he is also a right wing, Flat Earth conspiracy theorist. I have expressed to my family how much I dislike him and why I do not want contact with him. I hate lying and saying I have other plans that day, as I'm free all day Friday. My mother and my sister are still in contact with him. I do not trust him. I know it's only for one day, but every time I see him, I can't help but to feel so angry, hurt, and uncomfortable. I go to great lengths to avoid things that make feel uneasy. He has also went behind my back in the past and has caused fights between my sister and I by telling her things that I told him in secrecy when I was foolish and trusted him.
Am I being unreasonable to not want to go to this family gathering? Would you personally still go given the event if you were in my shoes?
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.It’s not worth it! He sounds way to out there. I don’t think you should lie.
bradnyijuan
Level 7
Sep 3, 2019
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I’m sorry but your sister and mother have a very bad memory
sandrarocks83
Level 7
Sep 3, 2019
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Personally I wouldn't go and I wouldn't feel the slightest bit bad about it. Life is too short to put up with shit from anyone... Especially family.
However... If you DO go... I'd feel free to speak your mind and you may want to tell your other family members that is on the table if you show up!
RiverRick
Level 7
Sep 3, 2019
0
If he pimped your sister.... why haven't you told the Police?
GipsyOfNewSpain
Level 9
Sep 3, 2019
2
@Shawappa44820 Important distinction.
@Shawappa44820 My mistake, I read he sold her for drugs... my bad.
I wouldn't go and don't feel guilty. It's difficult to do but I have severed connections with several family members who have no respect. Life is too short and I am too old to give a fuck anymore.
Serenityseeker
Level 7
Sep 3, 2019
4
I’ll go with you, and be like your bodyguard. If he comes within 10 feet of you, I’ll say I’m sorry sir step back please.
LucasfromGR
Level 6
Sep 3, 2019
1
You're not unreasonable. I would be honest and say that I have no desire to be around this person.
JenBeberstein
Level 8
Sep 3, 2019
2
Wouldn't go. I wouldn't lie about why either.
Would definitely say it was because of him.
If it's clear to me that my feelings are not being respected, I don't put myself in situations where that shit is rubbed in my face.
I'm not going to worry about how that gets perceived by anyone.
You have every right not to be subjected to anyone.
KKGator
Level 9
Sep 3, 2019
3
I'd just go somewhere else...maybe a park by the lake or ocean with a beautiful view of the city...
VineetHonkan
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Sep 3, 2019
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