When one grows up poor, in a loving family, and not in an absolute struggle to avoid starvation, one learns several valuable things. First, you learn that it accomplishes nothing to be angry and to blame others. That does not help a damned bit. Second, you learn to do what you have to do, like it or not. That promotes improvisation.
Third, you learn that everyone in the family has to do his or her part, like it or not. Fourth, you learn to lean on each other for comfort and support. Fifth, you find simple things in your own environment that give you pleasure. For me, those things were the outdoors and books.
Those things help to give you a happy childhood, a set of skills and attitudes which serve you well throughout your life if one remains open to experience and to new learning and opportunities.
I grew up in a poor but dysfunctional family. Mom died when I was 14, dad remarried the bitch from hell 6 months later. My brothers and dad were abusive, my stepmother was also abusive. Today only my middle sister and I are close. We used to joke that we were the normal ones, both of us in long marriages. Then I got a divorce but we're still close. Maybe closer, she didn't like the ex.
But it is not necessary to grow up poor, in a loving family, not in an absolute struggle to avoid starvation to be all good things you mentioned, right? Can a child of an affluent family be taught all good values?
Yes, they can, but I believe it less likely, as it is less necessary.
@wordywalt I don't believe that poverty and struggles teach you better values. Lower middle class, middle class and some affluent class children have a higher chance of making stable and able human beings because with less adversities, they have a greater chance of raising children with great values, good parenting, yearly education and environment. I personally think that poverty and struggles often can break you and very few can get up and survive out of the struggles. The early age diversities are a stronger enemy than we think.
@St-Sinner Please read my words more carefully and non-judgmentally. You objection has nothing to domy point. Poverty can, and often break many families and people. My point was that in functional families in or near poverty do often meet those circumstances in a manner which teaches much of value to their children. It is the circumstance which demands a productive response to produce growth. Yes, struggles break some people. But, they also make good and great people.