I think it is a bit unfair to group all men together like this. I grew up in a household where my father worked and brought home (a meagre) pay and my mother did everything in the house. My father could just about make a cup of tea. I remember as a fifteen year old looking after him when my mother was in hospital.
Like my siblings I moved out of the family home at 16 to bedsit land and had to learn to cook or starve.
Certainly some of my schoolmates left the family home to get married and probably perpetuated this pattern but many men now take their share in all the chores.
I do most of the cooking in our household as I am retired and my partner still works and to see my son confidently handling, changing and feeding his new son was amazing.
No i think Ann Pratchet is way of the mark

My story is similar , but significantly different in others. I was 25 years old before I ever cooked for myself, ironed my own shirts, did my own laundry, or did simply housekeeping. Once married for the first time, I wanted to concentrate on my career and on being the primary provider, so I turned all of the cooking, housekeeping, too much of the child-rearing, and the family finances over to my wife.

I grew to regret that. My first wife turned out to be too self-centered, manipulative, and coercive to be a good shaper of the lives of our daughters. She also eventually used her managing of our finances into an opportunity to take almost all that I had earned and saved. But, as a consequence of that I have become pretty good at taking care of myself and my own life and relationships.

My biggest eye opener was when I left the nest after high school, and realized how much farther ahead of me, girls were. There was no expectation I would develop as an independent adult.

I remember a huge argument. All my sisters had learned basic cooking skills as kids- how to make ramen, at least. But mom absolutely refused to let me "mess things up". When I was in high school, and had the munchies, me and my friends made ramen- and a mess. I got my ass handed to me. My oldest sister had kids of her own then, and invited me over to show me how to do some basic things around the kitchen. My mom got mad that my sister was "going over her head". I felt like an idiot.

Your experience is all too common. No wonder so many women choose to remain single or leave marriages where the "value" they receive doesn't add up. And in fairness, at least at our age, there are a surprising number of women who seek this sort of dynamic. Not for me.........If I choose to be with someone, it is because they make my life better, more exciting, more interesting. I don't need a maid, mom, or caretaker.