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My journey to becoming an Agnostic.

I grew up with a Catholic mother and an Atheist father. They agreed to send us to church and Sunday school until we were old enough to decide for ourselves. My time in Sunday school wasn't very pleasant. I was a ver inquisitive little boy. I was one of those kids who would rather sit someplace and read a book than go out and play. If I wanted to know something I would ask my parents. If they didn't know I would read up on it at the library. So it rubbed me the wrong way when the nuns would chastise me for asking questions they clearly didn't have an answer for or questions about inconsistencies I was seeing. So when I was old enough I chose Atheism. As I got older I became more introspective. Then I started examining my views on spirituality and religion. I realized my Atheism was just a childish rebellion against the nuns who treated me so poorly for simply questioning. So I started a long journey looking into Christianity, Judaism, Islam, and Buddhism. I started to realize even though I didn't buy into any religion, I couldn't disprove the root beliefs they had. That being the existence of a Supreme being that resides outside of the physical universe and that we are spiritual beings occupying physical bodies. Science had no real answers for this either way. So I accepted that I didn't know for sure either way and became an Agnostic. Dogma is easy to disprove. That's low hanging fruit. Disproving the spiritual is something entirely different and impossible. At least for now. So what was your journey like to what you believe?

Norman347 5 Oct 25
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So, you "became an agnostic"? You whittled it all down to an understanding that you couldn't know whether a God existed or not. Well, Neil deGrasse Tyson said if had to have a label, it would be agnostic, because "there still might be a chance". Wow, Tyson still believes that another realm outside of this one might exist?!
My own path to non-belief brought me to this, the universe is 100% natural and the supernatural realm is a mental construct. The supernatural was the creation of the mind of early humans to explain what they didn't and couldn't know, and probably most humans still suffer this delusion. GROG

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I think sometime it ourselves that keep us from taking a real stance. I was in that boat; brought up Catholic (my dad) and sent to parochial school during the elementary years. Religion was benign for most of my life and even though I had a degree in European (Christian) History I simply went along until a jolt woke me up. It wasn't until I met my future partner, a woman from Iran who was a life long questioner and atheist that I was willing to see things as they really were. Ask hard questions and read non-religious apologetic books. Join some groups as Freedom From Religion Foundation or Center for Inquiry [centerforinquiry.org] to get another view. Above all, don't let fear hold you back.

You should always take a stance based on verifiable facts not hunches or beliefs. That's how religion is born. I have seen no proof a Supreme being or the afterlife do not exist. I have seen hints that at least the Supreme being may exist IF Quantum Mechanics is correct. But even if it is correct that in no way validates any of the religions. If you aren't sure of what I am referring to, look up the Measurement Problem of Quantum Mechanics. If you haven't read up on this you are in for quite the mind bending treat. Essentially QM has found that everything exists as a possibility until observed by consciousness. Experiments have born this out so far. Now if you extrapolate all the way to the beginning it implies that in order for the universe to being to exist there had to be a conscious being present to observe it to make it real and kick off the whole thing. Call it whatever you like. But in the end we don't know either way. I don't like to assume I know something. I need things proven to me before I will accept it as real and not a good unverifiable theory. Both Atheists and Theists claim knowledge when they really don't have knowledge. All they have is belief based on faith. This is why I view Atheism as just another religion. It's just based on materialism instead of spiritualism.

@Norman347
"I have seen no proof a Supreme being or the afterlife do not exist."

Hey you know what? I have seen no proof that Star farting Goblins don't exist either, but to tell the truth I don't believe they exist either.
The default position in logic for something that refuses or cannot prove it's existence is to assume it does NOT exist, until such time as evidence emerges that it does.

I can make a list of 100,000 things that have no proof of their non existence and all of them probably do not exist, what makes god so special that you need proof of his not being there when presumably without any proof whatsoever you don't believe in the existence of Unicorns, Pixies, Cthulhu, Daleks or Noddy and Big Ears?

@LenHazell53 Perhaps this is a good example😘”Faith is to believe what you do not see; the reward of this faith is to see what you believe”* St. Augustine

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You can call yourself anything you want...that is the freedom of being a freethinker. If you are happy saying you are an agnostic that is fine, if you feel you have a spiritual dimension, that too is fine..but you have to allow others who do not feel this spiritual dimension to think differently. No matter how long you look for answers to prove there is something or someone spiritual who created us “a supreme being” to paraphrase your own words, I believe you will never find him/it. The reason for that is because you cannot prove a negative, and without any evidence of such a being, you probably never will. However, I never say never, so that is why I used the word “probably”, because using all laws of probability I have concluded that by now in the 21st century somebody would have been able to find some evidence of god’s existence, considering the age scientists have been able to date the world at is 4.543 billion years old. It would seem to me incredible that by now god has not left some evidence that can be scientifically tested, of his existence. For that reason I call myself an atheist and and agnostic, because if the proof was found I may still be open to persuasion.

The post reminds me of Karen Armstrong. I read her looong "History of God" book but now it seems she has not let go of religion. It's hard to determine. What do you know of her?

@JackPedigo Nothing at all...I’ve never heard of her.

You can't really be both. You are either a Theist, you believe in God and all that goes with that, an Atheist, convincd there's no such thing, or an Agnostic, you see no convincing proof either way and feel you really can't know and leave it at that. If you are open to the possibility then you aren't an Atheist. You are an Agnostic. Being a freethinker doesn't mean words mean whatever you want them to mean.

@Norman347 I beg to disagree with you, I have the prerogative to call myself what I want, and my preferred term is freethinker. I actually don’t like or feel the need to use labels to describe people, but you seem to be the one who is confused about what you believe you are, not me. You are the one using terms and labels to describe that you went from believer to atheist and then you realised that that was just a rebellion against the nuns, so in fact you are not actually an atheist now, but an agnostic. I have never had such difficulty in knowing that I don’t believe that there is a god, I at no time ever believed that there is a god. My mind is not closed because I am prepared to be open to any evidence if ever it is shown to me, proving the existence of god, so in that respect I’m agnostic . At present as there is no evidence that there is a god, that lack of evidence prevents me from believing in god, therefore, in that respect I’m atheist. Please don’t try to tell other people that they are wrong or what they are, my understanding of the English language and the meaning and etymology of words is extensive, and I know exactly how and when to use the words I use. You ask what our personal journey to what we believe is...well mine started by not being indoctrinated in the first place, but given the tools and encouragement to read, enquire and analyse all doctrines and philosophies, and then to decide for myself whether I believed in a god or gods. That is what a freethinker does, and it’s what my father and grandfather were, as am I.

@Marionville She was onn NPR and had an interesting story. One would have thought she would have left religion a long time ago. She considers herself sort of a Christian/Jewish/Muslim. [en.wikipedia.org]

@JackPedigo I have read a couple of her books several years ago and thought she was a pretty good commentator but then heard her speak and she came across as an arrogant bombast!

The content I thought was quite good, but certainly not bringing anything new to the table.

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Well great, but i hope you follow your atheist father, eventually.

Arguments along the lines of "I can't be sure.." and "science can't show me there isn't a god, so I'll be agnostic" don't cut it for me. Science explores what exists, not to prove what doesn't exist."

Atheism is just another religion. Atheists base their disbelief on nothing but faith. If you can prove what you claim is true then you are spouting beliefs not facts. No better than what the Theists do. Agnosticism is the only honest stance to take on the existence of a Supreme being and life after death. Unless you know of a scientific way to test for both?

Forgot to add science cannot explore what may or may not exist outside the physical universe. I hope you understand this.

@Norman347 if you are going to say something preposterous like atheism is just another religion, then I'm making a note to ignore you. Some agnostics like you turn up here from time to time with that attitude and I've learnt just to say, this is a pseudo religious person and is best avoided. I hope you understand this.

@David1955
Show me how it isn't. It's belief that this is all there is, that once we DIE WE die, is based on nothing more than faith. Atheism is a faith of materialism plain and some. Unless you are telling me you can actually prove we are jslust intelligent meat and death of the esh is also death of consciousness. If you think you can it'd be a neat trick given not even science can do this. When you claim there is no soul, no afterlife, and so on you are just spouting your own brand of faith based belief.

@Norman347 and you joined this community because......you're an agnostic that demands that science and atheists prove there isn't a god, that there isn't anything after death, that there isn't anything spiritual, that there isn't a soul, and all manner of things don't exist, and to prove all sorts of negatives, or by golly atheism is just another faith based belief! Even this argument, which has been rehashed here again and again by some other "honest stance" agnostics, you don't do very well, I have to tell you. Sure you are in the right place?

I have to say, and I don't say this with any malice, you sound like what I call a residue Catholic. No longer officially a believer.... but there's that residue.

@Norman347
"Atheism is just another religion." you say?
Atheism is a religion in exactly the same way celibacy is a sexual position.
You labour under the misconception that you know what you are talking about when you define atheists and that you can dictate to long time atheist what they do or do not believe and what they do or do not have faith in.
Have you any idea how arrogant that makes you sound?
You sound just like a religious troll, spouting the same old Christian arguments without the courage to actually be a theist or at least admit you are one.
Atheist simple means without god(s) it means nothing else, does not connote a materialist or anything else. Different atheist believe in anything they wish to, EXCEPT for a god or gods, that is all the word means, and as you yourself have admonished others for trying to redefine words I can only say "Physician heal thyself".
You really need to stop making a fool of yourself, you will find that people will soon tire of the attitude you have been putting forth and the best members will simply block you as a closed minded pseudo intellectual rather than engage in meaningful discussion.

@LenHazell53 Yes, yes, indeed, on all points.

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Spiritual can mean so many different things to different people. I try not to use the word. In my area many who are not religious send the kids to church and Sunday School just to have some alone time for themselves, then use a need of religion to defend their actions. God becomes the baby sitter.

Not really. Spirit means not of this world. I am not trying to play with the word. Spiritual is pretty clear. Not of the physical world.. So no you can't prove it exists nor can you prove it doesn't exist. These things must be taken on faith since there is no real way to prove their existence.

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Why is it impossible to disprove the spiritual?

It's non-physical. How do you test for it? Science is limited to the physical world. Same reason why you can't disprove the existence of anything else that isn't supposed to reside withing our physical universe.

the real question is why is it necessary to disprove the spiritual? the onus is on the believer to prove the object of belief, not the other way around.

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@Norman347 I dunno. I do stuff all the time, as well as my kids, mom, and others I grew up with in Haiti, such as we used ESP to communicate as missionary kids growing up on a Haiti mission, since there were no telephone lines on the mission back in the 1950s and 60s, and very few in Haiti even now.

Strangely, none of us considered this to be "spiritual" or "woo" or anything but normal.

When my parents were elderly and in fragile health, we had no phone on the farm, so whenever my mom needed me, she'd just "think" to me, and I'd get the message as clearly as a telephone call. My daughter can do the same.

Even now, I ride all my horses without a saddle or bridle, drive the horse cart without using the lines, using just my mind to guide them, like the horses in Avatar.

I also teleported regularly because my old car didn't even have a working speedometer, so I could schlep on over to Cincinnati in 40 minutes, as opposed to the usual four hours driving time from our farm near Morehead, KY, or zip over to Louisville, a three-hour trip, in 20 minutes.

My daughter did the same and both of us were annoyed when we later got better cars and once we could "see" how fast we were going, our logic got in the way, like the Loony Tune cartoon characters that keep running in the air past the edge of cliffs, and don't fall until they notice it.

@Norman347 Proving or disproving spirituality is about as useless as trying to prove that someone loves you.

@Norman347, @DenoPenno I don't understand why anyone would think something that is non-physical could not be demonstrated, or why one cannot prove love. Love certainly can be proven if we define our terms, and non-physical REAL things could certainly be demonstrated if they have any effect at all in the physical universe (and non-physical claims are FILLED with auxiliary claims about how they affect the physical world). If such things were real, proving them is a piece of cake. (The only reason people SAY it is impossible to prove the spiritual is because they know the spiritual isn't real, and that you cannot prove unreal things.)

@greyeyed123 The only reason people SAY it is impossible to prove the spiritual is because they know the spiritual ISN'T REAL, and that you cannot prove unreal things.

@DenoPenno If it is a real aspect of life how is it pointless? If it is real you should want to know. Your logic doesn't flow. What does how someone feel about you have anything to do with whether or not we have a spiritual side? Please explain that logic.

@DenoPenno Wrong. The only people who say it's impossible to prove or disprove tlanything spiritual are those familiar what what proof is. Please explain to me how you would prove or disprove anything spiritual. I am dying to hear this.

@Norman347 You can't. It is the same thing as proving there is or is not a god. That's why spirituality can mean anything you want it to mean.

@Norman347 It depends on what the claim is, but I can think of many ways if the spiritual claim was actually real. (Moreover, claiming something can never be demonstrated because you cannot think of a way to demonstrate it is an argument from ignorance fallacy.)

One way would be for the spiritual realm or being to directly communicate with everyone, leaving only the same doubt as one would have with their five senses. (If the claim was such that such a being or realm would be able or inclined to do such a thing.)

Another might be to test the knowledge gained from the alleged spiritual realm and its accuracy. If an Egyptian tomb was opened, say, in 2005, and it was explained on a wall in English (or any other modern language) the date and time of the tomb's opening, as well as the fact that the Higgs Boson would be discovered on July 4, 2012 at 125-127 GeVc², and was associated with specific spiritual beliefs or rituals that could be replicated and tested further...and passed the further testing...that would be compelling evidence.

If the claim was that believing certain things and performing certain rituals would make you objectively happier, healthier, smarter, live longer, and able to move objects up to the size of a car with your mind, we could test for that. And if those claims were true, we could determine that.

If the claim was that we could visit the spiritual realm (through astral projection) at will and pass secret messages to each other, then return to demonstrate such communication, we could test for that.

The only problem is that whenever spiritual claims start to sound impressive by trespassing into the falsifiable, then suggesting a test suddenly makes the claimant rearrange the elements of the claim to make it UNFALSIFIABLE once again. This is the hallmark of a delusional belief.

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