I've just found out about 2 great grandchildren we didn't know about.
Our son & girlfriend had a daughter in 1994, but they split up & there has been no contact since she was 9 years old. We saw her last when she was 6, as they live in Saskatchewan. Son had no contact either.
Last week, that granddaughter found our youngest son on flakebook, & contacted him, in turn he gave her my email, & we've been getting to know each other a little with messages.
She is married & has a little girl, & boy.
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Sorry.
But your son sounds like a real piece of work.
How did he get away with not supporting a child?
He just abandoned her?
You may have other offspring out there, then - if he is that nonchalant about it.
BufftonBeotch
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Oct 27, 2019
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I got away without paying support for many years by living in a state that did not support uniform child support enforcement. My ex got state support in Missouri for the 2 girls, then after 20 years I moved back to Missouri. This meant that I had to pay for all the time that I did not pay, or go to jail. Paying was the right thing to do.
Other than this how do people get away without paying? They threaten and make a woman believe they might kill her, OR that particular woman never files for child support.
Oh Joy! And i like the reference to "FLAKEBOOK.
rogueflyer
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Oct 26, 2019
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@Lilac-Jade I quit over a year ago. It actually wasn't that hard.
That is wonderful...I hope it blossoms into a close bond. Let us know how it goes, eventually meeting up some way down the line.
Marionville
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Oct 26, 2019
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@Lilac-Jade Maybe some day there’ll be a way to meet.
@Lilac-Jade I think eventually he’ll probably find out that you’re in touch....who knows what may happen down the line. I was just thinking that it would be nice if you could meet them in person some day.
@Lilac-Jade You could Skype/facetime/whatsapp and try to find a way for occasional face-to-face communication with your granddaughter and her family. You can be close without having to travel.
@citronella Yes...that’s a good idea.
This sounds like it could be wonderful! Sadly, in today's world, at the first mention of money (loans, gifts, anything to do with money!) DISAPPEAR! Best wishes!
AnneWimsey
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Oct 26, 2019
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@Lilac-Jade I certainly hope not, and that it never is...but my Mom's long-lost family found us (from eastern Europe) and after the initial happiness, it was hand-out request after hand-out request, and increasing guilt-inducement when none was forthcoming. So I speak from sad experience. My Mom & her sister (who being much older & born there could remember some of them) were devastated, in fact 25 or more years later were still sad about it.
@Lilac-Jade, nor mine. And knowing where someone is can be nice. But trying to build something with strangers is, well, strange.
@Lilac-Jade the parallel was eerie as we, both the Slavs & those here, were farmers...we had dairy cows as well. Not like we were rich (not even close!!!) and refusing to share.......
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