Today I have been feeling very lonely. I suppose its the time of year. My Mum made such a fuss at Christmas. She made everything from scratch and would have fed the world. Now I have bought my ex out and own my big old pile, I miss it being full of people. Rattling around in 5 bedrooms seems somehow wrong when there is so much homelessness. I loved being a Mum and now they are off being grown ups, I feel a bit bereft. Of course there are my students and the kitten but its not the same as my own. I miss my Mum and grandparents and former life. How do you do this? I am just about mature enough to be an adult, how do you manoeuvre middle age? Especially if you are shy and not good at making friends.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Find people you can trust and rent out rooms. It will help you financially and give you company.
mooredolezal
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Dec 2, 2019
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Have you considered flying off somewhere for the holiday (if you are not working) ... my brother has most of December and January abroad every year ... but he is a retired widower and now very happy with his own company or sharing time with people he meets out there.
ShadowAmicus
Level 8
Nov 25, 2019
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This sounds disingenuous. I have a partner. Just missing being Mum and being part of a big family
Amisja
Level 8
Nov 23, 2019
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Yup. Just joined the club. Youngest moved out last week to go abroad. Two live in different countries now and I only have the one who is back at weekends. House is very quiet and empty.
i hate it
LeighShelton
Level 8
Nov 23, 2019
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Hugs
@Amisja thank you x
Lost my father and had a cancer scare this year.
Dreading xmas.
Decided to cancel it this year.
Going to spend it painting and decorating tv off phone off.
Start the new year .new decor new me.
TonyGriffiths1
Level 5
Nov 23, 2019
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You are welcome here
Volunteer at a homeless shelter...that would be my suggestion if the alternative is being alone at home. I have never been on my own at Xmas, but this will be the first one since the death of my son in January and whom was my constant companion at Xmas since my husband died in 2010. I’m going to go over to visit my other son and his family in Leicester this year which will be a new experience for me. Will your son not be visiting for Xmas...or will you not be visiting him?
Marionville
Level 10
Nov 23, 2019
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They will probably come for a bit as will my Dad. Not my daughter. Just miss all the hustle and bustle
@Amisja you will adjust in time...!
Its not easy, and I am sorry to say that sometimes I think the best thing is work. Very often employers, like the NHS especially, are glad of people who want to work during the season. And sometimes nursing homes will be glad of people to come in and just socialize with the patients. I am luck, as though now living alone I do have a best friend, and the odd lonely hours I fill in with a walk. May not work for you but it is the best I have got.
Fernapple
Level 9
Nov 23, 2019
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I always used to work new years eve.
Sry. Wish I could actually be more helpful than say "get a dog".
I dunno how we do it. Just put our heads down and get through the bad days, while keeping our eyes open for the fleeting moments of gratification when the occasional thing goes our way.
And drink.
Or try this:
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Nov 23, 2019
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