Many female friends ask me if posting personal photos is good to increase your chances of dating and what are the advices I would give, as an expert in the neuroscience of the dating behavior. Yes, they are ultra-important, we are visual animals! No chances at all without at least one personal photo.
Regarding advice, here it goes:
- No sunglasses at all. Better still, no glasses at all. And no hats, any kind, particularly a baseball cap!
- Show your eyes looking directly at the camera.
- Always a discrete smile, a happiness smile
- Framing: do not show only your face. A midplane (from the navel up) to show part of your body is ok. NEVER: a shot from a distance, with a small, hard to distinguish face.
- Don't post a photo together with another person: it might be difficult to say who are you.
- Never, ever, post a photo with a man, particularly an ex! Not even a son, cousin, colleague, etc. Might communicate a wrong message
- Please, no aninals with you (cats, dogs, reptiles, birds, etc.)
- Use a pleasant and neutral background. After all, you want to show something eles. Focus on you.
- Don't post ancient photos of you. Always recent ones, please
- Use some makeup. No shining skin. Do not exagerate. Please comb your hair to perfection.
- No sensual photos, with excess decoletage, too showy legs and feet. Again, men are stupid enough to think that you are "easy"
- Excellent colors, illumination, contrast. No shadows in parts of your face. Use a professionally taken photo, if possible. No black-and-white or processed photos with funny edits (like wearing a cat's nose).
- Improving a little bit your photo using Photoshop or portrait-improvement sites is ok, but don't do it too much. No animation (such as Boomerang), videos, or comics photos;
- Earrings and necklaces are ok, as long as they are not oversized or too exuberant. Must be beautiful.
- Wear a beautiful but discrete dress. The simple black dress always it's a win. Or with the color you look best.
A perfect example of all this: Elizabeth Taylor. Classy, beautiful portrait!
In addition, try to post different photos, in different angles (your best angles, including full body pictures).
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Or, if you live in Brazil, you could just go to your local body shop and make a few adjustments before you bother getting in front of a camera.
itsmedammit
Level 8
Dec 18, 2019
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Bwahahaha! Yikes!
Not quite the reaction you were looking for, was it, sparky?
LatentumCattus
Level 6
Dec 16, 2019
4
You should chisel these rules into a billboard sized stone tablet. I recommend marble. You should then smash that stone tablet into sharp shards of about the size of bricks with a sledge hammer. Finally, you should shove those sharp stone shards, the chisel, and the sledge hammer straight up your pompous ass.
Now, fuck off!
JimG
Level 8
Dec 16, 2019
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"We are all individuals"....... Monty Python, right again
AnneWimsey
Level 9
Dec 16, 2019
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This is gross. Really. Who do you purport to be proffering your own personal ideals as a template for all? Gross.
BlueWave
Level 8
Dec 16, 2019
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1of5:
Well see he's an ...expert in the neuroscience of the dating behavior, and from the rest of his post seems to be looking for women to post pics he can wank over.
Or, and this could be even worse, he's a self importaint asshole that thinks what he likes/wants is what all the rest of us little folks should like/want, so here's how to do it.
Elizabeth Taylor will always be my heartthrob
OuroborosBoy
Level 4
Dec 15, 2019
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In this photo I can see the look Michael Jackson was shooting for. Wow!
@itsmedammit Holy cow, you're right! Now I'm creeped out by both the picture and the guy who posted it.
Good grief -- that's a glamor shot. It would be grossly out of place on a dating site. And would probably reflect trying too hard.
Aside from that, most of us aren't members of the Beautiful People so holding up Liz Taylor as a standard is pretty depressing (and objectifying, really).
I would simply post a truly current and nicely composed candid shot and let the chips fall where they may. And if I were seriously into, say, my dog or cat, having them in the shot might be a good filter to avoid waisting time with people who have pet allergies or who hate animals. Yes, it's limiting, but it's a limit you probably really want in that situation.
mordant
Level 8
Dec 15, 2019
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I've had 2 , total, internet relationships that ended up in marriage. Thats not 2 that ended in marriage, that's 2 total internet relationships, both ending in marriage (medical, not relationship issues ended the 1st marriage)
So with that said, ignore this clown. Please.
1of5
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Dec 15, 2019
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