Are you a jealous person ?
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Nope. I'd rather be alone that with someone I can't trust.
Lysistrata
Level 7
Mar 28, 2018
3
Nah, I trust people. Too much apparently.
carcmcgarc
Level 5
Mar 28, 2018
3
Jnei:
Me too.
I admit to being quite insecure in relationships, I have been excessively jealous in the past. Less so now, that is not necessarily a good thing. In my case it is more along the lines of, oh well if she cheats, then it is yet another failed attempt.
Rugglesby
Level 8
Mar 28, 2018
2
In my youth horribly. I didn't grow up in the best of environments and very self-conscious. I was always intimidated by other males being to close to a female I liked.
Today if a man goes after my girl I just let them know that one comes with responsibilities and bills and leave it at that.
MartinG
Level 6
Mar 28, 2018
1
Nope.
To me jealously implies some right of posession over the other.
I don't own people.
That's not to say that it is wrong in others, just that that is how my being jealous would appear to me. Of course this is informed by my lack of jealousy in the first place.
RobAnybody
Level 7
Mar 28, 2018
5
I agree with you Rob.
Nope.
OpposingOpposum
Level 9
Mar 28, 2018
2
But you claim to have given birth to the green-eyed monster?
@EricTrommater what now? No. I have two wild, blue eyed viking monkeys.
@Blindbird well I'm blue green gray color blind...
@EricTrommater Thats interesting. Isn't that the rarest type?
@Blindbird it's only an issue at stop lights.....
@EricTrommater how do you cope with that? Genuinely curious.
I wouldn’t stay in one if I felt that. I think jealousy is a byproduct of a lack of trust. Honesty and trust are an absolute must in a relationship. I do know there are a lot of people who are just naturally jealous people, I don’t view that as okay in my world. However I am single, so what the hell do I know.
Tony80223
Level 7
Mar 28, 2018
2
To a healthy extent. But I often make jealousy jokes. "Excuse me who is 'adele' and why did you like the cunts work?
LadyAlyxandrea
Level 8
Mar 28, 2018
2
I try not to be, but it's very difficult when my depression tells me everyone else is more interesting/attractive/intelligent/etc than me.
memorylikeasieve
Level 7
Mar 28, 2018
2
Who are all these people commenting on your post? How well do you know them? I mean, have they commented on your other posts? And have you commented on theirs? I suppose you're planning on replying to their comments, aren't you?
resserts
Level 8
Mar 28, 2018
4
Lol, good example 
I can be, and this will probably piss off a few people, but I think that anyone who says they aren't at all jealous is full of shit.
You might as well tell me you never lie, or masturbate.
Paul628
Level 8
Mar 28, 2018
2
Jealousy is naturally occuring, yes but it's also something that pops up in sibling relationships. Do we encourage that in our kids,believing it means they really love us? No. We soothe their fears and help them work past their jealousy. It's a biological leftover that serves no worthwhile purpose any longer. One sibling isn't likely to die because their counterpart/s take some attention away from them.
Similarly a relationship needn't die simply because someone new has entered the picture. Why throw out something and someone you've spent so much time building a relationship with?I admire the way some poly people treat jealousy, like a malady to be gotten over rather than an integral component of a relationship.
Do you limit your circle of friends for fear that someone will be liked better than you are? That would be juvenile
In the context of modern society, I see no benefit in fostering jealousy in interpersonal relationships. If you've got any instance in which jealousy has made someone happier, healthier or more secure, please share.
@Blindbird The post didn't ask for a specific context, only if we were a jealous person.
As you stated, jealousy is naturally occurring. It may be minimalized but not totally eliminated, just like any other emotion.
I suppose it may be possible for a sociopath or psychopath to pull off.
@Paul628. As I stated, I think its entirely possible(and healthier) for a healthy person to work through. Again if you can show me some instance or way in which jealousy is beneficial,I'd be happy to hear it. The post may not have asked for context however context is important in stating my opinion on this AND nothing exists independently of context. Trying to separate a concept or feeling from its context is silly and unrealistic.
@Blindbird Why do you insist on me giving you an instance of jealousy being beneficial when I implied nothing of the sort?
I only stated that it's an emotion that everyone has, whether good or bad it's there.
If only for a fleeting moment we all have pangs of jealousy.
@Paul628 and my point is that its maladaptive and can be worked through so as not to cause trouble. Its the same as any other emotion or behaviour. If it benefits you, by all means keep up with it. If on the other hand it causes you pain, problems in your relationships or unnecessary stress, why hold on to it?
@Blindbird Again, I didn't state that is was good or bad either way.
Even if it is an extremely short pang of jealousy what you choose to do with it is up to you.
Whatever way you want to deal with it is irrelevant, my point is that it is there and you can't completely eliminate it.
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