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Are you a jealous person ?

Wildgreens 8 Mar 28
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Sadly, no.
I'm so male in traits, I'm more like a cis hetero guy in that respect, who are often known to share lovers, so lack the female outrage needed to kick cheaters to the curb. This is a bad trait for a female, since it leaves her at risk from badly behaving spouses, who then feel free to act out.

Unless she meets her male counterpart.

@Anonbene I did..my ex came out as nonbinary female about six years after our divorce in 2010. He/she was perfect for me, but sadly, if I wasn't jealous, being partially transmale, she/he sure was! Insane jealousy-of my job, anything that took my attention from my ex-is why I left the marriage and moved to Thailand.

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From my experience, i only feel "jealousy" when i don't get what i need from a relationship. Since no one is a mind reader, if I'm feeling jealous then I need to speak up & communicate my needs. If this person either can't meet that need, ignores my need, or can't understand my need & the whys, its my responsibility to decide whether or not this need is make or break. Do i need to 1) communicate more effectively, 2) reconcile my need won't or can't be met 3) determine if this is a relationship i can stay in or trade in for something different.

If the person i'm with decides the grass is greener elsewhere & I'm not worth negotiating with regarding an open relationship, I just remember this: he may not value me but someone else very well may. Its better to be alone & happy than together & miserable.

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I have been jealous, so might be again. I'm not jealous of my wife; she gives me no reason. If she did, I could live with it because I want her to be happy, but might be jealous. It would change our relationship from monogamous to poly, which is not likely.

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I used to be a jealous person, but realized that it doesn't do any good. I'm no longer a jealous person.

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Depends on what you mean. Yes, I get jealous when it comes to genuine human connection, but I don't believe in acting on that jealousy. If someone is into someone else more than me, then they should go be with that person, not settle for me because of this idea of "commitment" or "obligation." And I don't get jealous about sex; envious, but not jealous.

Concur!!

The reason why I was asking, it's because my friend Shelby makes it very clear to her husband, that he better not look at anyone else but her.
She's extremely jealous for no reason. She has a wonderful husband. They have been married for two years.

@Wildgreens yeah, that’s a red flag. Then again, that’s the norm now days.

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No. They had sex before meeting me and they will enjoy sex again after we part ways. I encourage my lady friends to go out with other men or women for entertainment or sex or bring them here, they do.
I don't own them, I appreciate our time together. I'm glad they are happy.

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I have been in the past, and will probably be in the future, to an extent. But I am working on it oh so hard ?

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Yep. Quite often.

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On a scale from the motionlessness of particles at 0°K to Jealous, I am negative Kelvin.

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Nope. Content with what I have, realized I don't need no mo crap.

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yes. of others achievements, posessions, happiness, everything.

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Nope! There's no one on earth I'd rather be than me. If my romantic partner shows interest in someone else, that is fine, as they likely have wonderful and admirable qualities too. I can usually also admire her too, if she is known to both of us.

There is a point however, that they may cross a line, shattering an intimacy commitment or hiding their activity, lying about an indiscretion, etc., and then it's still not jealousy, but simply time to cut him loose and let her (or they) have him.

I'm a prize, but not for lying cheaters. If a fella can't act honorably wiithin our relationship, then he loses out. The other gal/s can be the "winner/s" and that is fine with me.

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I'm very jealous of people here who are at a higher level than me

@irascible I'm a jealous guy but also a slacker. That is a bad combination

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NO

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I'm far from jealous, I'm comfortable with myself.
I was told that usually jealous people are insecure.

they are

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Not really but in my youth, I have been and it consumes you so not good at all. if someones going to do something, they just will, especially if you keep treating them like they did something wrong.

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Only if I am given a reason to be

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Some jealousy is good. But there's a limit like most things.

I'm jealous of folks who have their kids with them all the time. I get mine on the weekends in the school year and summer break.

Gozer Level 4 Mar 29, 2018
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To be Jealous or not to be Jealous
Jealous do you gain anything
There is a lot of energy used - working up getting upset, getting stress, feeling unhappy- which then lead to illness,then you are spiralling downfall into a abyss. Can you lift your self out it depends do you have the strength to lift your self out
What can you do to overcome jealously
Not jealous do you gain anything
You be a better person you move on you try to learn how he achieved it,If he can do so can i.
Instead being jealous try new avenues- I am divorce too I have not see my kids or my dog for the last 5 years. Yes I can be jealous too but what will I gain I instead text my ex and she send me photos of which I am grateful for.At this point of time thisis the only avenue I have time will heal and hopefully one day I will get a chance to see my kids . Instead of being jealous work on it learn and understand what it takes to removes that jealously bit or part. I envy people with boats/cars/houses
But instead of being envy of this phsycial things I will grattitude that I am free and I can do whatever I want to do like climbing Everest which I did last year. But I can work towards getting the cars/houses but he has to work pretty hard to climb everest
Hope this give a small hint side of life.

Rosh Level 7 Mar 29, 2018
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No, I would never fight over a man's affections as I think it's very immature and I have more confidence in myself than that. I believe if the person I'm with doesn't want me, then someone else will.

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The only reason for jealousy is lack of trust. If you have complete trust in someone, there would be no trigger for jealousy. And if there is a lack of trust, there are bigger issues you should be concerned about.

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Not one Iota...

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