Yes, I would have definitely avoided my first two marriages. My first wife was loose shall we say as I met her in a GI bar in Germany. I was young and thought I was the man. Her sister was double whatever my wife was and she was constantly tugging at her and I lost that tug of war.

My second wife was a yes yes person and agreed to almost everything I said. After we were married none of that turned out to be true. I held on to 15 years of that until I found myself staring at the back of her head while she entertained herself online. When I finally broke the cycle and put more of me in my life, she didn't like that and her online entertainment went to online relationships.
She left, I won. I had me again.

Hi,I said the same to my wife.If I could go back I would have to relive my first marriage as if that hadn't failed I would not have met my wife.35 years on and still I'm holding on to the hate.

Some time ago, I accepted everything in my past as what made me who I am right now. To change anything, no matter how small, would change who I am. I love who I am and wouldn't change a thing about my past.

I always say you can't go back. I married my first husband because we were living together and probably wanted to please my parents who were his drinking buddies. His behavior mimicked the dysfunctional relationship I had with my family, but I didn't realize it at 23.

If I could do it again AND retain my memories AND could make life take the same trajectory, I might... but the odds of that would be astronomical.

No freaking way would I do it again!!!