When I signed up here I was still hoping to find someone to start a relationship. Life goes round and round and I arrived to a stage that I'm happy and "resigned" to be on my own. I got too used to be alone and do things my own way that I now "run away" from any relationship. Life has become quite easy to deal with like this. Does anyone relate to this state of mind?
After 2nd divorce 5-6 years, I "dove" into dating, mostly online, so it was so/so..... SO I went back to doing what I HAD to do....take care of kids, business, home, property, and therefore my sanity. I've had a few short term relationships. I've fallen in love twice....rejected both times, But HEY!, I had more than one fall for me.
Best advice I can give guys: SMILE!
At 66, I don't want to get married again. Older men are too much work. Man-childs want a mommy to do all of the meal planning, cooking, dishes, laundry, housework and great sex. No way.
A man I met five years ago and I have fabulous sex about once a month. Our chemistry and connection are exquisite. Afterward, he takes me out for a meal. Perfect.
I find the wonder and joy in life. Hiking, talking and laughing with friends, exercise, volunteering as a college mentor, book club, cooking, reading: Life is fun!
I love hiking to alpine lakes surrounded by jagged mountain peaks. We all need more low-level ecstasy in our lives.
Is this the atheist me too page?
I came here both for community and the possibility of finding a non theist guy who could hold a decent conversation.
I soon found that here like everywhere else the guys that were interested in me were older than I was interested in, into open relationships or 1500 miles away so I'm staying for community.
About 20 years ago, when I was about your age, I was becoming comfortable with my solitude. I was settling into the life with no company and no intimacy.
Then, I met a woman who I felt was acceptable and got married (my only). Well, that dysfunctional marriage wore me out, made me question who I was, and convinced me that I had nothing to look forward to.
Now that I'm single again I find myself unwilling to accept total isolation, while simultaneously unable to establish any level of intimacy. I don't have any potential relationships to run away from.
So in some ways my experience is like yours, and in some ways different. At 47 you're still young. If you like being alone, enjoy it. It's the only kind of "relationship" you can be completely in control of. (I hate it)
Wow… you’ve described my situation pretty well.. I’d never planned or expected such a revelation, but here it came. Seems to have arrived with the purchase of a motorcycle … no one to scold or worry about me - total crazy freedom!
It’s still new, though … not quite a year. I can still be sparked, but when weighing the costs, it’s been a fairly clear ..no thanks ~
Me too. Two years ago I became widowed, and in a panic, I started looking for a new soul mate. Met a lady on Agnastic.com. Had a lunch date. She was toooo full of herself for my taste, so it went nowhere. I soon started enjoying my new freedom. I now have a large pool of good friends, and no commitments. It's a great life. I'm 90 years old and loving it.