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Scenario: You're in the hospital with a terminal illness. You are of an alternative religious belief. Your family surrounds you and they want to pray over you. You don't want that. Do you let them? Do you ask them to pray outside of your room? Whose wishes matter more?

IAJO163 8 Mar 31
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I would probably tell them I appreciate the thought behind what they are wanting to do and the fact that they care about me but I do not feel comfortable with partaking of something that violates my religious conviction, although they are free to pray for me on their own time if they wish.

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My only experience that relates to this would be when I almost bled to death three years ago. I had a nose bleed which came and went for over a month. I finally made it to the emergency room (a lot more took place but I am skipping that as it is not relevant) and was sent to Portland. I had no idea what was happening, I had no platelets in my blood, so a bruse could have killed me. I was ninth miles from Kate and could do nothing about it. My only thought was that if I was going to die I would not be able to thank Kate for choosing her to be her husband and sharing her time with me. Everything else was a side thought that I did not really care about. The hospital in Portland is a Catholic one and I chose it as they are the best on the coast here. People wanted to pray for me so I let them, it is their time they are wasting and it did not matter to me.

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Outside room

bobwjr Level 10 Mar 31, 2020
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Easy question - yours do!!! When my partner was dying of a brain tumor she opted for our states Death with Dignity program. Her Iranian family came from Vancouver BC and tried to talk her out of committing 'suicide.' She sent them packing. She did die but only hours before medications from the DwD program arrived. The person who is dying must have the final say. Relatives always say it's because they love the dying family member but that is BS. It's because they are selfish, pure and simple.

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Tough question. As a very pious evangelical Agnostic, I think I'd let them do what ever makes them feel good. I have no doubt that they mean well. Maybe it is worth remembering that the prayers will probably be around longer than the victim ofthe prayers.

karl Level 5 Mar 31, 2020
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I'd ask them to make sure they pray to the correct god, the FSM. If they can't do that, please take their prayers elsewhere so I don't have to listen to their blasphemy.

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I'd tell than I had to sit through too many prayers as a child. Go into the hall and pray and come back when your done.

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If anyone shows up, I'll let them pray. If I'm dying and there's no fixing it, they will need comforting I won't be able to give.

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Like funerals, prayer is mainly for the participants not the subject. Prayer will do no harm to you but could make them feel better, allow it.

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Your wishes matter, however you will die but they will still be here. If it really worries you that much if they pray, ask them to do it outside or after you have carked it.

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I will ask my relatives to play my favorite music or bring me a serenade.

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