I don't want sex as much as I did when I was younger, but I want it to be better.

Waiting patiently for right partner in crime. As relationships mature so can the sex.

My choices in 'partners' have turned to choices in 'playmates'. Its not urgent but I miss the good times and the sense of intimacy. I'm more open to sensuality and new things than I was before and I'm not sure what kinky is because as I have aged I've decided If I like it . . it is cool

As a Hedonist, I have been very sexual all my life and sex was the most necessary activity for me. I am 80 now and that phase of my life is over as I am now impotent and can not engage in conventional sexual activities. It has been a difficult adjustment but I do not give it much thought now although there is nothing I enjoy more than looking at beautiful women.

Well, I started out extremely horny from a young age. Like, crushes at age 4, masturbating at age 7. I was sooo pent up in high school, but was tempered by my sincere belief that staying a virgin till my wedding night was mandatory as a dutiful Christian girl. So I fantasized about prostitution and bdsm but didn’t have sex till I was already married to a man who turned me off physically (God was supposed to bless our union regardless of attraction; I naively bought it). I had pain and burning during intercourse for our entire decade long marriage. I still wanted sex but it hurt to have any, so, that was messed up. Finally got divorced and the pain went away too. I kinda went sex crazy. Orgies, way kinky shit, hundreds of partners including other women over about 3 years. Then I slowed down, backed off, started valuing quality over quantity. I became monogamous with a new fiancé, then he left me before the wedding. It’s been almost 3 years and I’ve only had a few FWBs since then. Nothing at all in months, by choice. Haven’t been focusing on sex at all, and I’d rather nothing than something bad. I’m really happy alone and enjoying life, and open to a boyfriend, but I don’t need one to be happy.

Urgency - less. Still strong desire.
My fantasies have headed deeply into kink but not in action.

My appetite peaked in my 40s, has eased off in my 50s. Definately more interested in some kinkier things, they are more exploring the womans fantasies. I am really only interested in women who know their own minds, to me that is intelligence. The best sex/love making for me is where you can explore their personalities as well as their bodies. Too much information?

I got married at 22 (lost my virginity at 18 ) had what I would consider an average sexual appetite and wasn’t really into kink. In my late 30s my sex drive went through the roof and I got interested into kink. Definitely went through a slutty phase lol. Looking for an emotional connection as well as sexual now.

Definitely kinkier with age.

It's grown kinkier and pickier actually...

I have a much bigger appetite for sex than I did when I was younger and Iike kinkier and riskier things than I did before. I don't have the stamina I once did before however. It's working out for me though, because most women in my age range are hitting their sexual peak and are a lot less inhibited. My new partner and I are up to something sexual every day...

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What sex?

Insatiable since I hit the menopause ...I mean ...what the hell is that all about ? Definitely wasn't expecting that ! Cant complain though !

In some ways I am glad my libido has aged with me. It's there, the desire is there, but without the urgency of my younger days. Cuddling is a nice option, the phrase, just hold me now applies to me, too. Kinkier, I have always had a kinky side, which I still fantacize about. so my ideal partner would share it. So I will be selective and be sure I have a compatible partner. My wife of 35 years went from run away libido for the first 5 years to normal for the next 10, and then to absolute zero, so in our last 20 years we were best friends, that was a bit difficult to accept.

Personally I've just more comfortable with my kinks the older I got, the appetites are still there, but now I'm more calm, before it's was a insecure storm

I have always been adventurous. That hasn't change as I've aged.

As for urgency...desire is great, waiting whets the appetite.

As for kink...its only kinky the first time, then its a "yes", a "take it or leave it", or a "no"/hard limit issue (some things do not have to be actually experienced to be a hard limit/no.)

I've always been - shall we say - "experimental", and have had a busy, fun past. Now I find just when I think I'm slowing down - a new lover can totally rev me up again. Though I'm definitely pickier about who that might be !

I am selective despite the narrow marging for error. Have it all, seen it all... Next time is for keeps. Exploring with a Right Mate on my league will soothe my need. Age has spared me... so I feel Blessed. Sometimes Blessings come from Nature. Witness to the rest of my life will be a partner in Romance, Lust, Life, Love, Passion. Sex will be a sideshow for those few boring moments. We will grow Wiser and Experienced not older.

After my wife lost 110lbs and I lost 150lbs both of us enjoy it a lot more and drive is increased quite a bit. Health is everything when it comes to sex.

I've noticed as I got older I see more things about a woman that are turn-ons. Probably because I'm retired and not trying to keep a good paying job to buy new cars, houses, equipment for work etc. and not married...lol. I look now and think to myself, why didn't I ever see this before.

Wow, Dude.. You dove deep right off the dock..

I drank a LOT in my 20s. It was kind of a blur. That's where I racked up most of my numbers, and I had a voracious sexual appetite. Y' know, being in my 20s.

In my 30s, partners became fewer, but more.. deep, if you will. And my personal appetite decreased, partially due to antidepressants. Partially just 'cause I'm getting old..

Now, I'm toe-deep into my 40s and the antidepressants are still a problem. To the point where I'm thinking of exploring other options (do we have any? It's in our water now..)

Today, I feel a kind of new re-invigouration (sp?) when it comes to sexuality. I'm free, I'm capable, why not get around to some of those fantasies I had in my 20s?

I'm finicky, I want chemistry with a friend, at least. I'm heavily into sensory play because of some underlying neurological conditions, some of which I accept that I need to moderate for the tastes of most partners. A biting fetish, for example, both giving and receiving. Other people tend to perceive it as painful, but I love some good tooth mark bruising...

Once again, I'll let everyone know if I ever find another partner....... Or maybe I'll just keep it private between consenting adults.

This is a really hard question to answer. For one, in the past 32 years, I've had just two partners, although I am single now. Sure, the urgency has decreased somewhat, but the emotional need has not-if anything that has increased. I suppose I AM more selective, just being young and pretty doesn't immediately qualify. That said, under the right circumstances, I am willing to give a wide variety of women a chance. You never know what might happen.

As far as "kinky"...I don't know. I suppose not, but I'm not prudish, or anything. I try to keep an open mind.