Hahahaha, sure, be hot and burning and enjoy it, I always liked that in the ladies.

My actual goal was that interests are individual and different. He levels of hormones is promoted allover the western world, so that people that have reasons to be different, feel to be incomplete. I knew this was also an dating site, so I did not expect less than I got, but it was still interesting to read the replies. Sure everybody has to be accepted as the individual he/she is and also accept who he/she is, not judged by the outside-world that forces you in being what others think you should be. Religion has done that to me most of my life, everybody should feel free to be who he is.

Maybe I formulated my post a little different than I should have, as I was not interested at all how sexual active the members of this group are. Of course you're right. If people have the need to be sexual active until they are 112 (I believe that's the age of the oldest living person at the moment) they really should stay as active as they can. What I actually meant is (and on hindsight I should have pointed that out more clearly) that I believe that people that don't feel that urge so much anymore, should not feel guilty or feel unhealthy or deviant like quite some commercials are suggesting. They should feel just as at ease as anyone else. The replies I got here, was more in line of the commercials. And that's okay, I got what I asked for.

@Gert I just reread your original post, and I think it was my reading of it was that at fault. I simply can't imagine the situation that you describe. Pushing older people towards maintaining sexual relationships just isn't something that happens in the UK. Enabling them to if they want to, is a different matter.

I'm guessing in the US, there's money to be made from Viagra/Cialis sales, vaginal dryness treatments and the like. Promoting sexual activity between older people no doubt makes profits for certain businesses. That'll be where the expectation originates.

@NicoleCadmium Indeed, in the Netherlands, where I come from it's not a money maker either. But, on the other hand, if you see what medication is promoted here in the US, you have to feel 25 all your life. Medication for all kind of age-related issues. Medication for COPD (for instance for people that still are not able to stop smoking), joint pain, joint replacement, Viagra and all kinds of medications for which they have commercials on TV here, that I canceled my subscription with the cable company, and watch only Hulu and Netflix, etc., without commercials. I feel a lot healthier now. That these things are available is great of course, but here you have to be able to afford it, and still the majority of people can't. Sure I have pains which with I'm not glad. Taking pain medication more than ever. And indeed my sex drive has diminished somewhat, but I still feel great and I don't like to be pushed in a feeling that I should not. Commercials are also ways of indoctrination. To convince people of something that is not necessary true. Especially TV commercials are the new religion. I heard of people that love commercials more than the programs the network airs. I'm pretty happy and I believe my wife is too, even after 42 years of marriage. And that's what counts for me.

that gives me hope. at 65 now i haven't had sex for 12 years - & don't really miss it, only the idea of it.

@walklightly I promise, it is like riding a bicycle, only much more fun!

@AnneWimsey

@AnneWimsey And you don't have to wear a helment, most of the time.

Dear Blindbird, I did not start a discussion to be right or wrong. I just presented a theory and asked you all what you think of it. Don't get me wrong, I don't care if I'm right or wrong. The fact that me and my wife rerouted some of our sexual energy to other interests doesn't make this theory a personal conviction. And besides that, speak for yourself and don't speak of "Our sexual appetites", making yourself a good example or standard measure for the general sexual appetite of all older women. You tend to do that, you are not "we women", every woman is different (thank whoever) just as every man is, and I hope it stays that way.

@Gert your wife loves you so she sublimating to please your "desires" or lack of them. That is her choice and I hope you deeply appreciate it. On some level you know this, that is why you posted this whole thing, and why you got so rude to this gal.
Fun fact: women in the over-62 age bracket have been the fastest-growing "New HIV-POSITIVE group in the country for the last Decade, surpassing even Latinas of childbearing age, according to the CDC in Atlanta. How do you suppose that happens if we are all "finished"?

@Gert hence the word tend. Thanks for playing though. People having different experiences is a thing yes but just because someone you know has lost their drive doesn't mean the rest of us do. The statistics and my experience talking to numerous women back up my opinion. Side note have you considered goingbto a sex therapist?

@Blindbird Don't talk about me as "he" like I'm not there Blindbird. I never asked someone to agree, just brought a theory and asked for opinions. I worked with older people quite a lot and I don't think that I'm so very misinformed than you suppose. It's okay that you talk for yourself, and you did, but don't you judge me. Don't generalize your own opinion to a worldwide truth. You'd better leave that to religion. Above that all, I realize how much commercials and the so called "general consensus" try to influence us all, especially in the Western World. I see around me that the sex drive is kept very important for couples like it's all they have to live for. Never have there been more divorces than nowadays. I'm just curious. Not only religion tries to indoctrinate us all, commercials, politics, health care and so many more try do the same every day. They are very often quite successful.

Right? How do people still not know this?

@Blindbird It's only the men who don't know it. They like to imagine us sitting knitting socks & reminiscing & cuddling our bunions.

You seem to be quite a wisegirl, knowing it all. I agree with your arguments of becoming free of all kind of hustle. Good for you. But what goes for you is not a measure for every woman. It's nice for you and the ones that experience the same. Congrats. Keep it up.

@Blindbird You present yourself as quite an expert. I miss the finesse though.

@Gert I'm an expert in being a woman and I've spent my life surounded by them so you can go amuse yourself elsewhere. Furthermore the research on this subject bears out my views. You're just operating on the way you THINK things are with no data to back up your opinions.