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Not getting everything we want is part of living. We have all had to "settle" for something other than what we wanted at one time or another. What is something you've settled for that has worked out well in the long run? Also, what is something that you've settled for that you truly regret?

tioteo 8 Apr 9
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I settled for a part time job to get tf out of my old job that was supposed to be my forever job. It was great until it wasn't. I tried to find another full time job for a year and had a final straw moment when I said f this, I'm applying for a part time job so I can get the hell out of here! Been at the new job a year and I love it! Just wish I had benefits.

Remi Level 7 June 8, 2018
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I always hoped and expected to find Prince Charming in my 20's and we'd still be in love when we were 90 years old, holding hands on the porch while we watched the sunset. Instead I've been single most of my adult life. Two mistaken marriages, but I walked into problems I should have anticipated. I'm happy being single now and expect I will be for the rest of my life -- but then you never know. I'm unhappy that I'm going to end up my life in the Midwest. I love the weather but not the culture or the people. But the living is inexpensive and I want to stay near my daughter who wants to stay. I don't know where I'd go, anyway.

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I settled on living in my current town with a bad rep rather than the one I work in. Even bad towns have good neighborhoods

My house payment is half of my coworkers. Sure my property is worth less than theirs but my taxes are lower, I don't have code enforcement up my ass and i have spending money.

I didn't buy it as an investment, I bought it to live in. I live in area where rents are insanely high and my payment is about half of what renting it would be

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I was very insecure and settled for the first girlfriend who wanted to settle. BIG MISTAKE.
Often I have been in dire stratits and lost houses and such, I have never rented, I either buy a place or live in my car. I make the most of any home I have, even if it is not what I want, I make it work for me.

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We all make the best decisions we can depending on the circumstances and knowledge we have at the time we make them. The only point in looking back is to see what lesson or lessons we may have learned. No regrets, no failures only lessons.

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  1. one acre, as opposed to twenty-three 🙂

  2. a wife not up to the task 😟

Varn Level 8 Apr 9, 2018
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When I was young and full of potential, 6 different men asked me to marry them. I settled for #6, thinking I was getting too old at 25 to still be single. We did not have mutual respect and admiration or support for goals and aspirations.

I truly regret it, as I should have waited to see what was behind behind door #7 or beyond, maybe there was someone out there who liked what I was trying to do with my life. Took 29 of my best years to get out of that marriage. Then, wouldn't you know I get involved with another long relationship that wasn't quite right, but okay for the time.

Finally learned my lesson that I am better off on my own without a guy holding me back from being who I want to be. Who knows what I might have accomplished had I not felt held back. Now is my time to find that out!

Very similar stuff, including the 29 years, followed by a shorter mistake..

Your third paragraph lost me, though. And, it’s not just ‘guys’ that can hold you back.. Instead of the enthusiasm you espouse over your new found freedom, I’m finding a contentment with myself, yet open to others if they’d fit.. Good luck ~

@Varn Yes, it's the guys who took control over my life and held me back. The women in my life were very supportive of my goals. I'd be open to a guy enhancing my life instead of taking control of it, but for now I'm happy on my own. Perhaps I should have said "significant other" but since I'm straight, that's "guys" for me.

A good partner would never hold you back but encourage and nurture.

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I can't say if I ever did. Being an, introvert, nerdy geek Beta, I only strive to do what I know is achievable, I never give up. My stubbornness, do or die attitude has served me well in my life. I am not bragging it's just that I think things through before acting.

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I settled for not being a full-time working musician. If I had spent many more years playing in clubs, I would be dead by now.

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America has turned out to be a disappointment. The land of unlimited possibilities. Not true. Still better than most countries I live in.

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I settled for accepting my many shortcomings (instead of beating myself to death over it) and that has turned out surprisingly well. Regrets still tempt me, but I’ve learned to ignore them.

skado Level 9 Apr 9, 2018
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I settled for chicken when I want steak.

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Settled for financing a car when my car was totaled. 7 years-almost paid off-never buy new car again-would not sell me used-dealership.

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My life is what I have settled for, all my decisions,faults, accomplishments I have made. I can say it was not easy as there are many things I would do differently looking back but one does not have that option and to stew over them accomplishes nothing but grief.so, I have learned to look on the bright side and at the things that have worked out well like my family ,retirement, friends, and grandchildren.

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