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Is it possible for you not to judge people based on their appearance?

ladyinred1967 5 Apr 9
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Hmmm... I try my best not to judge people on looks. I think it is part of the overall package yet as I left my 20's I found I was much happier with women who I judged on compassion and intelligence primarily and looks secondarily.

In high school I hung out with the football players and quite a few gave me grief for dating a girl they felt wasn't beautiful... She was kind, smart and I thought she was beautiful so I ignored them.

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Another, it depends answer. At my stage of life I wouldn't expect a playboy bunny (ugh, nor would I). I judge by how healthful a person looks AND takes care of themselves.

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Yes, but I do judge people who judge others by their appearance as pretentious c...

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I always judge a book by it's cover....but after a while, you're surprised to see inside.

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To some extent, I judge people with appearance. It reflects who they are most of the time.

Sasha Level 4 Apr 9, 2018
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The best thing that can be judged is a poor choice. Just because someone looks good does not make them smart.

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I don't generally notice people's appearance very much, but that might be something to do with getting old. The expression on their face is what I notice most. But \i try not to judge people at all - again, probably something to do with getting old.

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If a woman has a good personality, and honorable, she's beautiful to me. If she is a monster inside, her outside appearance is only a mask.

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It all depends on how much you value appearances.....🙂 I recall many years one day in June when I was in Hyde Park London a man approached and sat down on the park bench where I sat.. It was obvious from his appearance that he had been living on the street for a very long time. His hair was long and matted together and he stank. However, when he spoke it was clear to me that he was very well educated and it turned out he had been to Eton and studied philosophy at Oxford University. Had I arose and walked away when he arrived I would have missed a great conversation, which, I doubt I would have experienced with any of the casually and well dressed people who walked by us that day.

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Only if you're blind.

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If we are talking about first impressions, then I think it is difficult not to. However, for me the sound of a persons voice is much more indicative of their character.

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Everyone takes an initial first impression of everyone else in order to asses potential danger, it is a survival instinct.
However once interaction takes place a deeper assesment is made based on personal preferences, social norms, compatibillity of opinions and threat assesments.

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Yes, if you talk to them enough.

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Only by shutting your eyes and ears

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Is it possible that there is a nerve that causes aggression that runs through the jawline? I remember Harvard Uni saying this...

Anyway, appearance is a heuristic. For example, I don't try to get people with very fit bodies to lounge around, and so on. Sometimes people are purely determined by their intentions, and it's a waste of time to try to suppose about unknowable things. Trying to mistake people, however, only looks intelligent to people who are already definitely intelligent.

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We all make judgements based on all sorts of things, including appearance, mannerisms, what music the person is listening to, gait, and more. Whether or not one draws conclusions about the person prematurely based on those observations and judgements is really the issue. I think some of us tend to do so, while others do not. I would like to think I am part of the latter group.

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Only if you don’t have eyes.

Iffy Level 5 Apr 9, 2018
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Total brutal honesty... No. Why? Because, even if I choose to not judge someone by their appearance or consider appearance I've still made a judgement about it. I think one is probably being dishonest with themselves if they don't think they judge by physical appearance at least a little bit. Take the "hotness" scale most men use for example. 1 being the "least hot" and 10 being the "most hot". There are some very ugly 10+ people out there, but it's not their physical appearance that is the problem. It's their crap philosophy. So. They are physical 10s but their words give them a -2 in the personality department.

Everyone has a little vanity. But... Let's be honest. If everything has gone totally south, I might really like you as a person, but it's gonna take a lot to get past the looks in the sack. I feel no shame in saying this, because I am not the only person who feels this way. I might not be an endurance athlete, but I at the very least try to control my diet, and sometimes I put in a lot of effort to try to be a little healthy in spite of my love for beverages etc. I'm not all about "channel hedonism" and I am not a lazy person by nature. But, like many here, life handed my some tough situations that couldn't be beat without tater tots, mac and cheese, wieners, bologna, microwave burritos, 5 buck six packs, and cheap bread. As a result, I am not perfect in appearance, nor do I demand it. You can be perfect if you want to, but I'll only follow you so far in your pursuit of it.

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No. And it bothers me that it does because I very much used to be judged on my appearance.

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I have just noticed you are in London. I think perhaps city people care more about appearances than country people, so that may be another factor!

I am in London, but I try not to judge anybody....especially not for their appearance. I am more countryside loving person , than a city girl.

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Totally off-topic - is that Highbury Fields?

Victoria Park?

No cigar for me

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If appearance is the only thing to go off, then obviously no it is not possible, otherwise yes.

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