We humans are very complex. As far as love is concerned what kind of a relationship(s) would you prefer?
Juggling multiples loves in multiple locations is challenging. I am monogomous with the one I am with.
Most people have no understanding of what love is. They call it everything but it's true definition. Love is work, and that's why most people would rather go by their feelings, and call that love. But feelings come and go, the reason for break-ups and divorce. Most don't want to learn the responsibility, knowledge, respect, and caring that defines loving another.
At the place I am currently in life I prefer a polyromantic/polyamourous relationship situation but monogamy is something I am open to as well.
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Not sure.
I was unhappy in monogamous relationships because I was the only one being faithful.
I told one romantic interest that I'd be up for a three-person relationship, but later realized that jealousy was sure to occur.
Maybe if the person just lived next door, it might work.
I would like to be in a monogamous relationship, but, I don't want to live with anyone, or be married. I also like to sleep alone. So, if he wants to spend the night, we can have sex, cuddle a while, then he could sleep in the guest room.
Marriage shouldn't have to be rigid and traditional.
There's no such thing as cheating if both partners are secure in the relationship enough to be open-minded, experimental and a little bit freaky.
Relationships are how we relate to one another, right?
I've been in poly relationships since 1995. 1 lasted 17 years (I'm still very tight with his ex-wife & his ex girlfriend. We all lived under tbe same roof for years. He lost 3 women in 10 months because he couldn't & refused to stay on his meds). My current relationship is going on 6 years.
Everyone I date knows about my other relationships up front & my partners know who I'm dating. Everyone meets. If a prospective date isn't comfortable with me being poly, he can go fish in another pond cause its not gonna work.
None of us is swingers so anyone coming in thinking its an automatic orgy is gonna be grossly disappointed in more ways than 1.
I recognize that i cannot be someone's end all, be all. They are going to want things sexually, mentally or emotionally that i cannot provide & I don't see why they can't turn to someone else for what they need. Yes, ground rules are negotiated & in place before the fact (example: safe, sane, consensual, use protection at all times, blood tests are a regular, no marks above the collar bone, etc)
Yes, there are people who are hardwired to be monogamous. Some of us are not. Its just quirky nature. I don't expect anyone to "settle" because i definitely don't & won't.
You have your place, and I have mine.
exactly !
Keep it simple as possible. No drama, no bullshit. So one dude at a time is good for me.
Is there such a thing as non-sexual polygamy? That seems to be where I am, I have some lady friends that I do lots of things with. Weekends away, holidays, helping with all sorts of chores.
They are caring toward me, they all know of the others and some have met. None of them are seeing anybody, or even seeking anybody and apart from sex (or lack of) I am the male in their lives. I advise their kids, partner them at functions. Generally just good company.
@LoreleiLeigh Maybe not perfect, but times have changed, many people look like being single as we get older. Still too young and vibrant for aged care. Good company is great and to have someone to go places with, movies, family functions or just travel. It is better than being alone. And if you accept it not being physical, mutually exclusive and don't expect 100% compatibility it may be an option for many of our generation.
Id like friends with benefits but still be faithful and more emphasis on the friends part at least to start with.
yes me too but not live with them
Communicative. I don’t believe in possession of humanity. If I’m not meeting necessary needs, you should absolutely look outside. But communicate your displeasure first. I can’t work on things if I don’t realize it’s a problem.
One at a time is enough, thank you.
Is all I can handle ?