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Hi, so I had a sad day. My sisters and I decided to take our mom off of all of her meds today. She was on a blood clot medicine and without that she will most likely have a stroke. It's really a bittersweet day but she is just out of control at the nursing home trying to escape all the time it's just never ending. The doctor agreed we were doing the right thing even though it's a very difficult decision to make. We have to keep reminding ourselves that we're doing it out of love because she's not living a quality life. It's really very sad.

Presley1209 7 Apr 12
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I fully appreciate how bad this feels...taking matters into our own hands, about the care and fate of a loved one, is the hardest thing anyone will ever have to do. That is, if you believe everyone has a right to make his own choices. I have had to help make the decision to 'pull the plug,' on my brother and it was the hardest thing that I have ever done! In your situation, there is a possibility that adverse reactions from meds, could be contributing to the problem. I have friends, where that was the case. My heart goes out to you...

It just sucks. Thank you for your support.

@Presley1209 it will get better...with time! But it changed me for the better! My best...

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That is difficult to decide upon, sorry to hear such. Sounds like you and your sisters made the best decision though, as hard as it be.

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Sounds like you have made the correct choice for her.

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So sorry. Dementia is such a horrible illness

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And THIS is when I wish people could be as lucky as any dog I own who is too old to enjoy life and in pain, can't see, can't hear, and when the tail can't wag, it's over. I also belong to a Right To Die group..... and they don't let each other suffer. And you know what? Sometimes "ALL of her meds" could be making her worse than she should be. Look at it this way. You are no longer interfering with nature. And there is nothing wrong with that. <3 <3

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I'm so sorry baby girl! I'm off tomorrow. I'll probably sleep all day. Stay strong love! I will hit you tomorrow.

Okay, thank you.

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So terribly sorry to hear this. Both of my parents are gone now but it was never wady seeing them age. It is truly sad.

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My sincerest sympathies for your ordeal, and your mother's condition.
It's never easy. Hopefully, the end comes peacefully and quickly.

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Just went through this with my wife of 30 years. She had gone deaf and blind from Muscular Dystrophy. Her instructions were to not call the doctor if she were having breathing issues. She was having some issues, I just curled up next to her and held her. She smiled.

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The experience of dealing with elderly parents can be some of the most difficult in our journeys. I wish your mother peace and hope you and your family find comfort in this difficult time.

Oh, thank you I do appreciate it. It is difficult but hopefully she will be at peace soon. I will miss her.

@Presley1209 We lost mom and dad in '15. While we still obviously miss them, my sister and I have become closer through the experience. A blessing in a weird way. Which is most likely the way mom and dad would want it. All the best.

@JohnPR1968 Thank you so much. My dad passed in 2011 and then my nephew a few months later. I never felt so close to my family. Sad that death will bring us together.

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Oh gosh. So hard. That's a really difficult decision. My thoughts are with you.

Thank you so much. Its whats best for her. She never wanted to live like this.

@Presley1209 me either.

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I'm sorry to hear this. I hope it isn't too hard on you.

I'm handling it better than I thought I would be. Thank you for your kind words.

@Presley1209 No problem.

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Dementia? I'm very sorry for what you are going through.

I'm betting if she were in her right frame of mind she'd thank you for your compassion.

Yes, dementia. She would. She always said to call dr. Kevorkian if she ever got this disease. Thank you for your kind words as well

@Presley1209 Try to really remember that in the days ahead - keeping to someone's wishes can be rough - but you are doing absolutely the right thing.

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