I made a mistake and am now being shamed for it, I went out with a couple of friends because it was the night of my senior prom, there was drinking and a lot of other things and sometime in the night someone slipped something into my drink, I blacked out and when I came back to my senses or as much sense as I could, I was at home with my father looking down at me telling me how much of an idiot I was I twisted my ankle and might have a slight concussion but am not allowed to go to the hospital for it bc I did this to myself, I made the mistake of going out for one last hurrah before I graduated and now I'm being shamed and shunned for it, what do I do? How do I deal with this?
I've known adults who left a drink unattendended for a moment and someoen spiked it when their backi was turned. You are a victim.
Your dad is beign unreasonable, not to mention irresponsible about getting your injuries checked out. If you brok a leg, woudl he not take you in because you "did it to yourself?"
It's not your fault. your father is being a fool as you can crash your car badly and it be a mistake you made but it doesn't mean you don't go to hospital ffs. go to the doctors if you don't feel right my love. slip your dad a Micky in his coffee and tell him it's his fault.
@Catalaya22 I have been where you are at right now. I know it is very hard to be an adult today, but you must get out from under your family. If there is a Youth Services in Mount Vernon please call them. They can arrange for temporary housing. It can't be long until you graduate. If you can trust a school counselor ask them for help. There are a lot of people here who care about you and have been in your situation with a family of believers. If I can help you please message me.
Here are some resources in your area:
Mt. Vernon Housing Authority
619 Broadway Street
Mt. Vernon IL 62864
National Runaway Safeline
Serving the Mount Vernon Area.
Gateway Homeless Services
Open 24 Hours
St.Louis MO 63016
Not letting you get medical attention is Child Abuse within the meaning of the law! You also may have been raped, that's the usual reason things get slipped into drinks. Is there a guidance counselor in your school? Can you call your family doctor yourself? Is there a Hotline for abused women in your area, or a Planned Parenthood? Your father is an Idiot and trying to keep it quiet to save His ego! That is not love, and not acceptable in this situation At All, If you have no other options, this needs to be reported to the police!
Did you asked us before you went out what may go wrong? Cant find your post with your question... I reckon you knew all your answers then. Not trying to be Rude or Evil but you want us to look at you as a child now when your acting as a grown up backfired at you in your face. Are you showing any remorse for your actions... not to us... we are not your keepers... remorse to your Father. Was he on your mind when you went out? You can't switch back and forth child/adult/child when you screw up. Life do not function like that.
I think it would be wise to seek the opinion of a medical professional. If you have a concussion there are protocols you should follow while your brain is healing...one big one is no screen time. :-/
Also, don't listen to the jackass saying it's your fault. This happens to people who are 18, 28, and 58. You can't control other peoples actions. You could have been drugged drinking a soda. Take care of you...
Just own up to it.
Sounds like an abusive parent to me. If you need medical attention and are refused it by a parent I'm pretty sure that's illegal. As for the guilt trip...typical adult hypocrisy. I suppose your dad never made a mistake??
As a teen, my religious mother always accused me of having sex with somebody's daughter. I graduated from High School still a virgin. However, I later discovered good ole Holy one used to be a prostitute. Didn't judge her, but What The Fudge??
Your father's behavior is not unusual but still cruel. You probably shouldn't have been drinking, but it ultimately wasn't your fault that someone drugged you. You didn't consent to take the drugs. It is unclear whether your family would understand this, but they should be both punishing AND supporting you. You got yourself into a very dangerous situation, and in college it will be even easier to lose track of things at a party. Next time, there may be no one to bail you out. Your family is probably afraid that something terrible could happen to you if they aren't there to help. Here are a few suggestions:
I hope this helps. Good luck with the rest of your senior year and I hope you are able to maneuver through college with a good head on your shoulders!
Someone once being funny put hot pepper juice on the brim my glass when I was at a bar. It was someone I knew and I can tolerate very spicy. Let's just say he can still walk well with a slight limp these days. Call crisis report it, do not be an unrepresented victim.
You did nothing wrong. You are a victim! You can call 1800-799-7233 (National Domestic Violence Hotline) and see if they can help you. I worked in a domestic violence shelter, and this kind of thing happens more than I would like to admit. I agree with the consensus that you need to seek medical help, but it sounds like you may need help beyond that.
Been there, done that. It could have been a lot worse. At least your friends had the sense to take you home. The ankle will heal but the memory will stay for a while for you to see others be not so fortunate with their outcome. It will be a great lesson that made you think about future endeavors and how to proceed. Be ready to help those who you meet later on and there will be many who feel the same way. Get up and get going.