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When you are dating someone, at what point in the relationship do you feel you can trust them with your feelings?

DarwinistOne 7 Apr 18
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About four or five decades into the relationship, though that may be moving a little fast.

Lmao!!! Omg

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It depends on the person. Sometimes, right away. Sometimes, never.

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Hmmm...I trust MYSELF with my feelings. If I am feeling something and in a relationship, I don't have a need to hide what I feel. I could never date someone who made me stop and think about whether to share what I feel...or think. Good post!

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I have been burnt every time. Every single time.

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I try to get that figured out early. I have too many feelings and need to be sure that will not be an issue.

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I am someone who doesn't play games. If I have feelings for someone I'm going to let them know. I will demonstrate through physical and emotional responses. You can't hide what you feel. Hopefully if there is chemistry they feel the same way.

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I think being honest is always best.

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If you are dating them, they have probably already 'read' your feelings.

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No real words of wisdom on this, or timeline. As I've gotten older with less time to waste watch every move & word carefully. There isn't much room for error early on.
Unfortunately in this day and age if I can't sleuth you things won't progress past the gate.
If there's anything that spooks me POOF!!!
After that...
A big one is the sense they're into me too, with no wiggly stuff or weasle behaviors. Verify what you can.
Wish I could have a convo with my past self about all this, but hopefully the lessons I've learned can be passed on to good use for my girl.

You are absolutely stunning, your bio is nicely written. If I was a guy and had my shit together I'd have a jones to get to know you better post haste.
Best wishes to you.

Thanks!

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I may leave a letter with a trusted friend to be delivered a year or so after I die.

JimG Level 8 Apr 19, 2018
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At least a month or two.

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I'm always sharing some feelings. "I like coffee." for instance.
Then eventually I might share how I like it.

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It waries by the person. Trust is earned. The way to ern it is with consistent honesty.

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If the person seems caring and empathetic and if the relationship seems to be one tyou might want to coitninue, try making youself a bit vulnerable by revealing something of your tgrue self. If the person reciprocates by doing the same and does not try to take advantage of what you have revealed, it is time to open up little bny little -- as long as the relationship is moving forward.

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I wear my heart on my sleeve,so it is very easy for a person to know how I am feeling.
im a very senstive passionate caring man.
and yes I will admit that I cry watching sad movies.

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Never....

psst, I'm thinking that if you're the real Buddha, that might be the wrong answer...who am I to judge? you wrote the book...

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When you feel comfortable sharing.

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it depends on the individual situation I think. I mean trust is the most important thing in any relationship.

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If l am going first l never feel comfortable until they respond in kind. If they don't respond in kind then l just feel like an asshole. If they go first l definitely feel more comfortable.

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If l am going first l never feel comfortable until they respond in kind. If they don't respond in kind then l just feel like an asshole. If they go first l definitely feel more comfortable.

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That is a difficult question. In my first 2 relationships I wanted to trust them right away and that was a mistake. In my last relationship we spent 2 months on the phone (Se was in Dallas and I in Seattle) before we met. We learned a lot about each other and formed a strong base. It was a beyond successful relationship but we both agreed that if we had met in person we would not have been attracted to one another. I think when we get to the point of being able to share intimate feelings and past experiences (like their growing up scene) would be a good indication.

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I’m not good at sharing feelings.

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Trust isn't exactly scientific. At one time I was too open. Not no more.

I think I'm too real and outspoken and it can scare people away but then, why would a Wuss attract me? If you can't take the heat, you might get burned.

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How about never.
Men aren't for sharing "feelings" with..they'll only feel uncomfortable and try to humor you. That's what girlfriends are for.

I'm only a partial transmale but I also try to avoid small talk and emotional revelations, as it annoys me. This makes hanging with typical females difficult at times.

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Dating is setting your likes and dislikes to see compatiblity,humor,if you can wake tomorrow with him/her on the other side of the bed every day for the rest of your life

Rosh Level 7 Apr 19, 2018
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