You'd have to know everything about her to know why she responded that way. Also, you don't say it was a first, second, third or so on date. Some people don't have sex on the first date and think the expectation of it is wrong.

You guys weren’t compatible, lucky you got a kiss

You didn't mention if this was your first date and your age. It would help to have more information before I could respond.

It all depends on how you said it, how well you knew her before the date, and so on. Lots of people have sex on the first date, not that I'm recommending it, so the idea that you had to be wrong is wrong.

Unless you were crass about it, I'd say she overreacted. Given the fact that she never spoke to you again and that you are asking about it now, my guess is that you creeped her out by how you asked and you already know the answer to your question.

Reminds me of a funny but true story...I had a date with a nursing student at a local catholic hospital. we went to see Janis Joplin. the event lasted longer then we thought and my date had to call the dorm where she was staying to let them know she was going to be late. when we got back to the dorm, the nuns greeted us at the door. I said good nite to my date and asked if the nun would turn around that I wanted to kiss my date good night. the nun laughed and turned around.

You never mentioned age. And age difference if any. I am not going to assume you were adults.

I always let the body language speak for itself. If you want to know what your date thinks about you physically and what their intentions may be for the longevity of date, their bodies never lie. Eyes, mouth, hands and feet instantly tell you what their minds won't upfront. When I was younger and bar hopped a lot, I used to bet friends on if dates would leave together or separately just by reading their body language. Let's just say I rarely bought my own drinks. Seriously though, the body itself speaks the truth more than words can ever say.

yes, your obsessed

Foe her it was. She saw your behavior as inappropriate, and it obviously made her uncomfortable. You nee to consider the other person's feelings.

Those things take time. Relationships need to grow, and go through stages. You were trying to jump the gun.

Yes. She obviously valued herself more than you did.

I think this was clickbait... trying to make his way to the next level. OF COURSE it was an appropriate response. This is exactly why women build walls.

Sex may or may not have been your endgame before you even met. Whichever was true, you just made it look like it was. Personally, I'd have left it at "I find you very attractive/sexy and I'd love to see you again." Maybe go for a brief kiss on the lips, and leave the question of sex for meet no.2.

I get crap like this on PoF all of the time. Starts out civil, and the next thing you know, it's all about getting their rocks off. Only yesterday, I was chatting with a guy and it was all perfectly pleasant. He mentioned that he was going to take a bath. He then mentioned that he was going to masturbate while he was in there. End of conversation for me. I expect that behaviour when 'hooking up', I don't expect it when 'dating' (which is what I'm attempting to do on PoF, and I make that very clear in my profile.)

The trouble here is that women, gay bottoms, and indeed anyone in the sexually receptive role are plagued with men who just want somewhere body temperature to dump their next ejaculation into. They will be on the lookout for telltales that you're that kind of man. Sadly, it's up to you to prove that you're not.

Unless they do just want a shag. In which case, happy days.

Yes it was an appropriate response. I am 51 years old and had someone said that to me after meeting them only once, I'd run for the hills.

For for you it wasn't.

Yes I think she responded in an open and honest manner. She may wanted a llittle more subtlety or magic but then again you were young