You are not the only person who feels this way. Of course many of us sympathize with the struggles of Ukrainians, but not all Americans are affluent and comfortable, either, although we get painted that way. I know where my privilege begins, and also where it ends.

Killing people is wrong except in the defense of yourself or others, is my stand. If I'm being murdered, I sure hope someone will murder that sucker back in the event I'm unable to.

On that basis, since Russia started this, their troops and leaders deserve whatever is coming to them. They're deliberately targeting civilians. That's against the laws of war (and yes, there are rules even in warfare) and against human decency, as well as any kind of honor that a military might recognize. I'm disgusted with them. I feel like I'm watching the invasion of Poland again, in 1939. And I'm pretty sure the Poles are getting edgy too, wondering if they're meant to be next.

I think that, all you have got, on armed conflict, is all you really need.

You got there, and you need to concentrate on your own needs first. Because our first and best commitment even to others, is to look after ourselves well, and not to be any more of a burden to others than we need be. But at the same time remembering that, everybody on the planet is a burden to someone some of the time, we all bump together in this limited space, therefore there is no shame in seeking help, because we are all in this together.

Welcome to what the world felt like to the people living in 1913.

Just talked with my Niece-in-Law about the same thing. They're in Idaho (ground zero). We both meditate and I recommend detachment (just as you're expressing). Peace.