I no longer believe in the institution of marriage. I know that is a risky statement to make. Are there any others who share this sentiment here?
I assume you mean that you no longer think that institution of marriage is good. I agree with this, at this point if a romantic partner wanted to become a legal entity then for me it would have to be something negotiated between both her and I with lawyers present. I understand the tax benefits and insurance benefits that come along with being married, but honestly I don’t think they’d be worth it if the relationship doesn’t work out. No marriage for me, now or ever.
Your call... your choice... I don't try to impose my beliefs on others because I got so few and they are personal anyways. But for those born in america... do you know your social security number says if your parents were married when you were born?
I have been divorced about 8 years (don't remember the exact count anymore). For financial reasons I will never remarry because that would create a financial penalty when I retire. And for me as there will never be human kids, there is no other reason I can think of to marry. I want a long term committed shack up. As for others I say, "follow your bliss."
Having divorced twice now, I think it’s a romantic idea but not a practical one. People change and it’s so easy to get married, but so very difficult to get out of. And how many people are happy and throw a celebratory party when they divorce? I won’t do it again.
For me the only reasons for marriage are to raise kids or to declare to the world that you are an item. The latter is how I see gay marriage.
But then there are others who have different values. If a religious couple wants to marry because that is part of how they practise their religion then good luck to them. As long as they know that I am agnostic I wouldn't mind being invited to a meal to celebrate one of their religious festivals (along with their other friends of course). I would even try to take an appropriate gift.
I would rather have friends - especially friends with benefits - and I would make sure that they knew about each other and maybe even met. Cooking a meal for a friend in your house and them cooking a meal in theirs is way better than sharing every meal and wondering who is going to do the washing up. Going on holiday together is more enjoyable when you don't live together and you are more likely to appreciate the different way they live their life (and all the amazing things they know and do) rather than pick faults with it.